Talk:Ambiguous loss

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I was encouraged by Huon via a message to post here in regards to adding a reference to my book Super Commuter Couples: Staying Together When A Job Keeps You Apart as it address 6 guidelines for dealing with ambiguous loss as it relates to super commuter relationships. Huon stated that my reference was not legit as the book was "self-published". The book has been sited in many major media outlets including The Atlantic, Market Watch, Forbes, US News & World Report, to name a few. It was also a Midwest Book Awards finalist in the category of business. The book was published by a publisher that hired a professional editor, a professional inside layout editor, a professional book cover designer, and a professional printer and distributor just like Random House would. That publisher was financed by me, but that does not take away from the quality of the content. This is not a pdf sold via POD on Amazon. I would ask that you please consider inclusion of the book on this page. The particular section of the book relating to ambiguous loss was adapted from the work of Dr. Pauline Boss who is referenced in the Wikipedia post and I personally met with her to discuss the project. Millions of people around the world live in a super commuter relationship and deal with ambiguous loss. I think the reference to this type of ambiguous loss and inclusion of the book reference would certainly add value to this article. Bearcelmft (talk) 20:21, 1 October 2014 (UTC)Bearcelmft


 * I'm well aware that, say, Amazon says the book was published by Equanimity Press. However, I have been unable to find any evidence that publisher actually exists. They don't seem to have a website, for example. Nor did I find any other books published by that publisher except these, and I do not think that's the same company.
 * That issue aside, I'm rather skeptical about the appropriateness of the book for this topic. Firstly, I'd say calling commuting a "loss" is quite a stretch. Secondly, there's no ambiguity involved. It's well-known where the "lost" person is, or when they will return. Thirdly, the idea of long-distance relationships, which seems to be the core of the proposed mechanism of ambiguous loss via commuting, is hardly new, and if it's known to induce feelings of loss, I would expect better sources, such as peer-reviewed papers published in scholarly journals or textbooks by academic publishers, will have been written about that. Huon (talk) 21:59, 1 October 2014 (UTC)