Talk:Bridal shower/Archives/2014

Bridal, or wedding shower?
married now and need to throw one of these, i'm trying to find the correct definition, so what do you think? Are they the same thing or different?

69.62.16.66 13:49, 25 September 2007 (UTC)Jessica69.62.16.66 13:49, 25 September 2007 (UTC)

Netherlands or Holland?
"A frequently quoted legend traces the origin of this practice to sixteenth or seventeenth century Holland. However there are also parallels with many dowry practices and the US Colonial or hope chest (trousseau) custom.[1]"

Is it really meant to be Holland, or should it be the Netherlands? The book says 'Holland', but on the same page, the writer quotes 'Wedding lore has it that the bridal shower dates back over 300 years, when a young Dutch maiden fell in love with a poor miller...'.

I changed it to The Netherlands, let me know if you don't agree. Anna&#39;s Sister (talk) 15:40, 1 June 2008 (UTC)

Who throws a shower?
My only experience with the concept of a bridal shower is reading about them online (since they don't exist in the UK) and one thing that seems consistent is a 'rule' that they should never be thrown by a family member, definately not a close one. I've even encountered entire pages on certain wedding sites devoted to 'shock' stories about showers thrown by family members (apparently it's seen as a blatant attempt to swindle extra gifts/cash from potential wedding guests). Yet this page states that a shower is usually thrown by the brides mother. I realise it may be a regional thing, but outside of Wikipedia things seem fairly consistent. Anyone got any ideas on which is correct/most common? Danikat (talk) 14:29, 1 April 2010 (UTC)

Yes, it is traditionally considered poor manners for family to throw a shower for the bride or couple. Sadly, many people are ignoring this guideline today. —Preceding unsigned comment added by ANDREWB0SE (talk • contribs) 14:15, 8 May 2010 (UTC)

My aunt threw a bridal shower for my cousin - I thought that was quite normal. It was for female family members, I'm sure my cousin's friends also threw her one (she lives in a town away from most of the family). Bridal showers are really not, in my experience equivalent with giving wedding gifts. When my other cousin got married, her sister hosted it, and it was a mix of family and friends. They are small family and friends affairs, with a nice lunch and some gifts for the bride, and lots of laughter and story telling. Sometimes everyone brings a favourite recipe, or tells a story about the bride, or in one case we all contributed a fabric square and made her a quilt. The one's I've been to have all been at someone's home (though I missed one that was at the beach), and they really are not something particularly consumeristic.

As for wedding gifts, the registry idea is quite common here as well. — Preceding unsigned comment added by 173.180.199.227 (talk) 21:55, 25 June 2012 (UTC)

Co-ed Showers
Looking for information on the practice of co-ed showers, where both woman and men participate. — Preceding unsigned comment added by 71.13.147.17 (talk) 13:41, 23 June 2011 (UTC)