Talk:Daddy Dom

Hello all, I have to add to this and even change the article for who ever did this article has no real concept of what a Daddy is. The origins are rather complex and I believe we should start there.

The original Daddy/boi relationships were between masculine identified Lesbians! I believe it was in answer to the Male gay Master/slave - as the word slave is gender neutral it worked for both feminine and masculine identified submissive. For female Dominants (Domme) the word Mistress replaced Master. When two masculine identified Lesbians wanted to break away from the the norm they started using the Daddy/boi relationship.

No I have been in the scene 17+ years and one of my teachers was Lesbian Daddy - I enjoyed the way she defined the relationship that I adapted my style to that of a Daddy. I will inject my definitions for a bit here. Some people in the scene have adopted them, but I would not think even a small minority agree. My version of the Daddy is any masculine identified Dominant (birth gender means little). He enjoys not only having a BDSM and Sexual relationship with his submissives, but also a emotional relationship with them as well. My experience is that Master tend to keep their submissives at an arms length emotionally -in fact I have seen a lot of Master/slave relationships die because the Master became emotionally involved with the slave and could not longer be Sadistic for their masochism. Were Daddies become a lot more intense as the emotional attachment grows! Last is the age play Daddy or the Daddy/son - Daddy/daughter relationship. This Daddy tends to play the indulgent Daddy while playing with their son or daughter. These are the real basic definitions I have for Tops.

On the other hand the submissive are a bit different. Lets start with slave. Most of the slaves I have known, played with, and otherwise been friends with have been nothing but an object to their Master and enjoyed it that way. bois (masculine identified submissives regardless of birth gender)and gurls(feminine identified submissives regardless of birth gender) play more of an active roles in their submission and play. I have two was of explaining this. First is that a boi or gurl will act on their on (were a slave would never use their own initiative) even if what they do is correct and pleases their Daddy - they would expect and gratefully receive what ever punishment the Daddy gives. Lastly is the son and daughter these are both age plays and it has been my experience that the sons tend to fall into a toddler for the gents and a tween (prepubescent girl 10 to 13) for the ladies. The toddler sons are usually into the diaper thing and the Daddies tend to want to be the indulgent parent for their son. As for the daughters well I really do believe that the prepubescent girl is a major turn on for some Daddies - you know none of the hair has come in so shaving is usually a big thing, and of course the the virginity and purity of that age is something, and I will admit the idea of taking some one innocent and corrupting and teaching them to be a sexual being is a major turn on - I guess that is why I enjoy taking on newbie bois and gurls into the BDSM fetishes.

Now I want to touch on a small point... which is the Mommy (feminine identified emotionally attached Tops) I have not met any in person, but I do know there are some out there. If there is not to much issues on these definations I think I would like to put as the Article - Dave.