Talk:Resentment

I made an article for Resent and redirected it here, since there was no article for it, and I wanted to know that it means. Luckily I found this article, so I made the Resent article and made it come here since this article explains what it means to Resent someone! RealG187 16:26, 11 January 2007 (UTC) Peace out, Thrill Me !$^@&*$

Don't Merge Resentment and Spite
These are similar emotions, but they have different causes and different effects: We can harm a stranger in some petty way out of *spite*, but *rensentment* requires a specific wrong or injustice.71.101.56.18 (talk)  —Preceding undated comment added 14:55, 1 March 2009 (UTC).

Resentment and bitterness are different things. I agree that resentment requires a specific wrong or injustice. Bitternesss comes as the result of repeated perceived wrongs or injustices and is an outlook on life.MerryGO19 (talk) 19:08, 3 November 2009 (UTC)

Resentment & Love
According to the Bible, love keeps no record of wrongs (1 Corinthians 13:5) and resentment kills a fool (Job 5:2). —Preceding unsigned comment added by 70.91.49.229 (talk) 11:00, 14 December 2007 (UTC)

Inability vs. Unwillingness
'The lack of forgiving, the inability to let go and forget' suggests that the person desires to forgive but unable, as in unable to move an arm because of illness, as in failure. This perspective invalidates personal will, and existentialism and I are deeply offended by it. An individual might not forgive out of conscious choice. Changed to 'unwillingness to let go and forget'. Somos (talk) 20:37, 5 June 2008 (UTC)

Resentment is merely an emotion, not a position. Forgiveness is a state derived by choice, but you can try to not be resentful all you want and still fail to get rid of the feelings. Resentment is a feeling that encourages unforgiveness, don't get it twisted, but a person can still forgive and feel wronged and annoyed until those emotions are settled in some other fashion. For instance, I can say to myself, "I will not hold their wrong doings against them." while at the same time being cautious not to get hurt again. Even if a buddy owes me money, if he is in need, I'll give it up. I hate that he asks and doesn't even look for a 9-5 job, but I will stay true to my buddy because I love him. I feel resentful because I am human experiencing and emotion, but I forgive him regardless and act like it never happened. Sure, I'd love to see repentance, but to enforce it would be robbing him of temporary stability and eternal self control, so all I can do is encourage the positive. That's the spirit of forgiveness while still having resentment. Shreddd (talk) 10:08, 14 March 2009 (UTC)

Source
Heres the link to the site I will be using as a source. http://www.coping.org/anger/resent.htm PBGuardsman (talk) 19:49, 2 February 2008 (UTC)

Resentment and the emotions it is made of
In the opener, the second and third sentences seem to contradict each other:


 * Resentment comprises the three basic emotions of disgust, sadness and surprise -the perception of injustice.[1] Resentment is a mixture of disappointment, anger, and fear.[2]

This sounds to me like "X is A, B, C. X is D, E F." I came to this article to learn about resentment and this immediately confused me. If it's comprised of those three basic emotions, why does the next sentence (and both are cited) state it's made of two other 'basic' emotions and also related to a third that so far hadn't even been elucidated?

AnyyVen (talk) 13:40, 17 September 2016 (UTC)
 * Have attempted to resolve contradictions....Jacobisq (talk) 07:44, 18 June 2019 (UTC)

Research Section
I understand that not a lot of research has been focused on resentment (for various reasons...), but I am hoping to create one, as long as everyone else is on board. I also think that there should be healthy and unhealthy aspects of resentment created (as topics); to paint resentment as just negative, seems unhealthy, because it has a purpose and function like any other emotion, postive or negative, and it has it's purpose and place in evolution.

Mr Robot 2020 (talk) 03:15, 3 January 2020 (UTC)

I just want to formally apologize, for my edits on resentment, for not being more aware/sensitive to the related/associated subject matter (grief, crushed-hope, loss, and death): my experience is very very limitted, so I had a very narrow perspective, when I was adding material to it.

I can only hope and caution others, and remind myself, that if you are going to edit this emotionally-charged and controversial topic, to learn from my mistakes: that editting wikipedia (for the public) is a HUGE responsibility not to be taken lightly (it's 1 of the top 10 most trafficed sites in the world; that is how much responsibility goes into an edit), and that resentment is associated with the most-severe type of suffering (grief/loss, hopes-crushed, injustice, and suffering) so be cautious because people will be ENRAGED if any prescriptive/"good/bad" language is used (descriptive and neutral is the safest approach; I try my hardest to stick to the sources exactly as it is written, and give a balanced-neutral approach).

I am also wondering/requesting that this topic be assigned a "controversial" or "highly-charged" warning flag. Because, if people read this material, I want them to know that this is not a source for a definitive absolute truth, but also that this topic is a very very serious topic: it is intimately tied to grief and suffering (which is a never-ending constant of human experience, thus this topic is extremely hard to talk about, without being hated for mentioning it), and if not carefully approached, it can really enrage people (and potentially lead to excessively violent behaviour). I don't know if resentment leads to social justice or constructive/positive changes in peoples lives, but I definitively do know that it can lead to excessive violence (meritted or not). Mr Robot 2020 (talk) 08:28, 27 January 2020 (UTC)

Move discussion in progress
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