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Mode One: Let the Women Know What You're REALLY Thinking is a self-help book by Alan Roger Currie.

Development of the Book
When Currie was in his 20s, he developed a reputation for approaching women and expressing his dating desires, interests and intentions to them in a very bold, upfront and provocatively straightforward manner. Currie has stated in his book that he was partially influenced by the highly self-assured, sexually straightforward behavior of a film character named "Jack" (played by adult film legend John Leslie) from the adult film classic, Talk Dirty to Me . Currie later developed "The Four Modes of Verbal CommunicationTM" in October of 1990 and published his first pamphlet in 1998 entitled Mode One: Let Them Know What You're Really Thinking.

In his Currie's 26 page pamphlet, he outlined the general characteristics of each of his "Four Modes" of Interpersonal Communication:


 * Mode One Behavior - An interpersonal communication style with women which his characterized as highly self-assured, upfront, unapologetic and straightforwardly honest


 * Mode Two Behavior - An interpersonal communication style with women which his characterized as pleasant, polite, cautious and "beat-around-the-bush"


 * Mode Three Behavior - An interpersonal communication style with women which his characterized as phony, cowardly, deceptive and fawning


 * Mode Four Behavior - An interpersonal communication style with women which his characterized as resentful, vindictive, misogynistic and harshly critical

Currie converted his initial pamphlet into an eBook in 1999 and began selling it over the Internet on sites such as the "Love & Relationships" message board of AskMen.com. Book Author and Comedian Ian Coburn described Currie's principles and philosophies as "refreshing and truly helpful" and Coburn felt that Currie's advice "encourages men to become confident and tells them how to do so." Currie believes, "If you are attracted to a woman, the best way to capture her attention is tell her what your intentions are; She may initially gasp in shock, but she is more likely to go out with you." Currie encourages single men to be very straightforward with women because "You cut through the bullsh** quicker. You get right to the point about your desires, interests and intentions, which in turn enables women to be upfront and straightforward about their desires and interests. Attraction, in large part, is about quickly identifying who is on the same page as you ... as far as your desires and interests ... and who is not."

Currie now has two books sold on the Barnes & Noble website as well as Amazon.com: Mode One: Let the Women Know What You're REALLY Thinking (2006) and Upfront and Straightforward: Let the Manipulative Game Players Know What You're REALLY Thinking (2009)

Criticisms against Pickup Artists and the Seduction Community
Currie has resisted having his name associated with the well-known Seduction Community, which features authors, dating coaches and seduction gurus such as Neil Strauss, Mystery, Ross Jeffries and Tyler Durden, among others. Currie is quoted as saying, "The main weakness in most of the behavior of the typical Pickup artist (PUA) is they tend to be deeply afraid of harsh, subjective criticisms from women, as well as abrupt rejection. When you are afraid of negative responses and/or harsh criticism, that puts you into Mode Two Behavior; when you are afraid of being rejected and/or indefinitely ignored, that puts you into Mode Three Behavior. PUA’s are manipulative in their behavior, which in turn, opens them up to be easily manipulated." Currie is very critical of attraction and seduction techniques which emphasize or utilize misleading or manipulative tactics. Currie said, "Manipulation can provide benefits in the short-run, but very rarely if ever in the long-run. At some point, your real, true self will come to the surface. That's problem #1.  Your true desires, interests and intentions will always eventually be exposed.  Secondly, when you attempt to manipulate others ... you actually become more vulnerable to being manipulated yourself. This is the key point that most men and women don't realize."

ISBN

 * Mode One: Let the Women Know What You're REALLY Thinking (2006) ISBN 978-1591138976