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PEMALIK, an abbreaviated short name for Pertubuhan Memupuk Asas Ikatan Keluarga, Kuala Lumpur & Selangor also known as Association For Fostering Family Ties, Kuala Lumpur And Selangor was founded in Year 2006 and registered as a Non-Governmental Organisation in Malaysia by concerned individuals recognising the seriousness of parental alienation on children in the Malaysian society.

It is a non-political, non-religious, sex-neutral, non-profit organisation whose membership is open to all Malaysians.

•Background

•Parental Alienation (PA) is a social dynamic, generally occurring due to divorce or separation, when a child expresses unjustified hatred or unreasonably strong dislike of one parent, making access by the rejected parent difficult or impossible. These feelings may be influenced by negative comments by the other parent and by the characteristics, such as lack of empathy and warmth, of the rejected parent. The term does not apply in cases of actual child abuse, when the child rejects the abusing parent to protect themselves. Parental alienation is controversial in legal and mental health professions, both generally and in specific situations.Terms related to parental alienation include child alienation, pathological alignments, visitation refusal, pathological alienation and the toxic parent - Source Wikipedia

Pemalik agrees with many other similar organisations worldwide "that inducing PA in a child is a form of child abuse. Any party which condone such practice should be punishable under a Family Court Act. Moreover, a parent who alienates a child against the other parent should be punished or denied visitation until the child is no longer alienated".

PA has been recognised since the 1980s, when it was held that a custodial parent's interference with the relationship between a child and a non-custodial parent is "an act so inconsistent with the best interests of the child as to intrinsically raise a strong probability that the offending party is unfit to act as a parent."

Children must have a good and healthy relationship with their parents for a balanced emotional and physical development. It is disheartening to see the trend of estranged couples punish and deprive the spouses of their rightful access to children. In a marital dispute it is common to see one parent (perpetrator) preventing the other from having any association with the children (victim). The alienation happens in many ways, either aggressively or tacitly.

Aggressive methods are employed when one parent expressly disallows the other from having any contact with the child.

Tacit methods are also used when a parent influences the child negatively about the other parent. There are cases whereby a parent assures the child that it is alright for it to ignore the other parent. Simultaneously, we also see a growing trend in our society where adults alienate their aged parents often leaving them in the hands of caregivers depriving them of love and family ties. Source: L.F. Lowenstein, Dr. Richard Alan Gardener

•	Rationale

PEMALIK believes any form of Parental Alienation usually stemming from disputing couples a is a form of child abuse. Here the victims are not only the deprived children but also a parent. Children under Parental Alienation are often faced with mental distress as they are not able to express their true intentions to their dominant parent. These children usually suffer emotional and psychological trauma, which often goes unnoticed. In the long run, their development gets affected. Our nation need children who are brought up in a stable environment free from the unnecessary effects of Parental Alienation. On a further note, aged parents need the love of their children in their twilight years. Source: L.F. Lowenstein, Dr. Richard Alan Gardener

Objectives

Disputes and conflicts are all too common. In matrimonial disputes, the unresolved conflict may have a significant impact on the children especially separation or divorce. PEMALIK objectives are therefore centred on:

-creating awareness on the importance of family ties -encouraging the development of good parenting and family values -helping married couples better understand the marriage covenant, the challenges of parenting, child discipline, and the effects of separation and or divorce. -lobbing all relevant parties towards conflict resolution by counseling with the focus on being good parents. Children have a fundamental need for love from both parents -Creating publicity and awareness on Reconciliation & Mediation to resolve marital disputes (to prevent couples from being exploited by unscrupulous lawyers who would rather encourage a dissolution of marriage with the sole purpose of financial gains) -Being an early intervention centre where disputing couples can seek help to resolve their disputes through mediation. -creating awareness by conducing Talks/Forums on the importance of Child Welfare in the event of dissolution of marriage. -Networking with governmental bodies and agencies on family related issues that brings about positive impact to our community and the future. -Presenting Memorandum and make constructive suggestions on parental issues to the Judiciary, Bar Council, Legislature and the National Integrity Council to formulate policies on the family. -lobbying for a judicial system which provides a "human face" in Family Courts where decision made have devastating life long implications. -lobbying Parliamentarians to amend the Law Reform Marriage & Divorce Act 1976 • Mission and Vision : To FOSTER greater FAMILY TIES

Early Intervention Panel

Any couple with children intending or comtemplating divorce should first meet up a panel of independent experts to agree on most of the following: • A MEDIATOR • A CHILD COUNSELOR / A SOCIAL WORKER • A CHILD PSYCHIATRIST / A PSYCHOLOGIST

This Panel has to work out details on:

Religion - Finance - Health - Education - Schooling - Outdoor activities - Holidays - Grandparents - Relatives - Festivals - Birthdays - Tutions - Counseling - Visits - Emergency - Upbringing - Residence Upon agreeing on the above, couples can proceed to the Courts for an amicable divorce to end their marriage. This would also save them ten of thousand of dollars, unnecessary affidafits and a waste of the Court's time often washing of dirty linen and at times with unscrupulous lawyers working towards the best interest of  one party.

•Mediation : PEMALIK believes effective mediation is important to ensure the affected parties are not unnecessarily traumatised over the separation/divorce. It is also less costly and less time consuming. • Fund raising: PEMALIK this far  has not received any grant or funding. It is self funded based on membership fees

• Publications / Events : see news articles and events in website updated from time to time • Blog :   www.pemalik.org Patron:Tan Sri Dr. Devaki Krishnan P.S.M., J.M.N., A.M.N. Advisor:Dato Tan YH President:Mr. Ratna RS Deputy President:Pn. Zaharah Mohamad Noor Vice President:Pn. Hasisah Juap Hon. Secretary:Mr. Ravishanker R Hon.Treasurer:Mr. James Siew CC Committee Members: Pn. Zainab Mohamad Mr. Gunaseelan V Mr. Thanabalan A