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Chiquii

Pronounced: chik-ee

This term describes a state of sustained but temporary elevated positive emotion brought about by the expectation of pleasure. "I have chiquii for Friday at 5 o'clock. It's payday and I love the weekend."

Escaping boredom or enduring an on-going challenging time-span is made easier when we evoke mental images of imminent positive experience. With the expectation of soon-to-come pleasure our ability to maintain positive emotion is greatly enhanced. Chiquii can be employed in ways that can have a purely positive impact but it can also have a negative impact, long-term. Chiquii can serve as an opiate and provide a hindrance to growth and positive personal development.

Examples of negative impact: "I hate my job but at least I look forward to weekends." "I don't enjoy being a teacher at all but having summers off is really nice." "The stress of having to close so many deals is killing me but I'll be able to retire early and then I can really live my life."

Positive: "Knowing how to play the piano will lead to greater happiness so I will endure through the tedious learning process and make it happen." "Starting my own business will make me very happy so I will put in the arduous time and effort needed for success." "Changing diapers and waking throughout the night to crying is driving me insane but in the end it's all worth it."

One of the earliest examples of the human inclination or proclivity for this mental and emotional process is, according to Jean Piaget, first seen in an infant's first year of life as babies develop object permanence or the ability to recall the existence of an object despite it being no longer seen. Imagining the continued existence of the soothing object, e.g. mother, bottle, nipple, toy, when no longer seen, allows the infant to avoid a more intense sense of loss and severe negative emotions. Infants can lower anxiety by imagining the desired object and by expecting imminent reunion with desired soothing agent.

As an adult one might self-sooth or lower anxiety and fear of loss with sentiments like these: "No one loves me in this life but in Heaven I will find eternal love." "I hate high school but next year in college things will be great."

Such notions of delayed happiness need to be well-understood on the personal level. We want to leverage this amazing process for our benefit. We want to avoid apathy and challenge ourselves through rewarding involvement with life. When there's truly no immediate way out of a negative situation use your innate Chiquii process but don't just dream of future joy. Run toward it and dance on your horizon. Be there!