User:Emm075/Family Communication Patterns Theory

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Family communication pattern has many factors that can set a child up for success or for failure in the emotional, mentally, and socially aspects. The greater the communication pattern relationship, the more successful the child was academically, socially, emotionally, and physically. Parent child relationship is a unique bond that every child and parent can enjoy and nurture together. Whether is it a single parent, married parents, or guardian making sure the relationship between parent-child is strong in communication pattern is important regardless of the age of child. Overall, the parent – child relationship is important because it outlines the foundation for the child’s life choices, personality, and behavior. Although the research regarding parent-child communication pattern is vast and thorough, the many challenges that have raised in the 21st century have changed and allows for more research to be done. Each child and parent are different but regardless of the different circumstances, each parent-child communication bond is important and vital.

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Communication is the natural process of transmitting messages to one another, ideas, thoughts, emotions, and feelings. Parent- Child communication pattern is affected by different factors. Individual, family, and environmental areas. Improving your child-parent communication may reduce the factors impacted and make them stronger for the relationship. There is no aspect of the relationship that is not impacted by parent-child communication pattern which leads to the patterns of family communication.. “Effective daily communication with a child helps relationship interaction between parent and child and the latter’s harmonious and complex development. Few things are valuable to a child than the chance to talk with one of his/her parents.” (Maurice Elias. Steven Tobias. Brian Friedlander, 2007:215). Having that every day interaction of communication leads to a family pattern of communication. Parent -Child relationship is one of the most important, meaningful, and influential relationships a child will have. The bond that is fueled between a parent and child plays a role in how a child develops emotionally and mentally. Communication with parents helps in socializing children with their gender, career and work, relationship values and skills, and health behaviors, it also will provide social support, create a family communication environment, make sense of their life experiences, engage in conflict, show affection, and manage private information. Parents and children manage these functions and will change over time as their relationship adapts over the developmental periods of their lives. This is leading toward one main pattern for family communication. It sets the standards of what a child will experience with communication between his or her family members.One of the biggest challenges as a parent is having that strong communication between parent and child or children. Parent- Child communication is not just verbal, but also non-verbal communication. Communication involves listening, understanding, being available, mutual respect, and emotions. “Communication is done on three levels: Logical, verbal, and nonverbal Out of all these, the logical level (of words) is only 7% of the total act of communication; 38% occurs at the paraverbal level (tone, volume, speed of speech) and 55% at a non-verbal level (facial expressions, position, movement, clothing etc.) If there is no contradiction between these levels, communication can be effective otherwise the message will have no effect” (Petronela Livita Pracsiu, 2008,60). Growing up I use to have a strong communication bond with my mother because she was my provider, my father and I did not have as strong of a communication bond, but my mother and I did until I got older and now that we both have changed and realized with do not always see eye to eye, our communication bond has been a little more lacking while my communication bond with my father has grown.

According to the study done by Grolnick, Hill, and Tyson, they state that as children grow developmentally, they start to enter a privacy and independence stage, where the communication relationship between parents can start to struggle and becomes less likely that they open-up about their school lives and relationships with each other. As a result of children becoming more independent and private the higher chances there becomes a parent-child conflict. (Grolnick, et al., 2007; Hill and Tyson, 2009). As children grow older, they tend to realize that they like to keep a lot more private and learn for themselves on how to handle all communication bonds. This can lead to a weak communication bond with parents. As a young child, who has older siblings I never realized why my older siblings wanted space or to be alone while the rest of us were together, now I understand that sometimes communication is not a verbal but the nonverbal cues of allowing us to communicate that we just need our own time.

Parent-Child communication has different levels of what creates a good communication relationship and patterns within the families. One major impact would be the quality vs the quantity. A child who engages more with a parent about personal, meaningful, and fun conversations matters more than small talk but multiple times in a day. Whether you have a child who is raised by a single guardian or multiple, the quality is a direct correlation to academic success. (Zhang Y., 2020). A child values their parents and when a child feels that their parent does not value them, the communication bond can suffer, and it will result in a quantity vs quality. Quantity is the number of time or an amount that is significant whereas quality might not be as significant in times or numbers, but more meaningful in conversation, listening, and spending time with the child. The pattern of having quality vs quantity is important because it allows for the child to have a pattern with their family members of quality time.