User:Hexwizard02/True Love

= True Love =

is an ideal state of emotions, shared by two partners, that is most commonly referred to as having a unique poetic value that is absolute in definition. In enhancement of “love” as an abstract concept, it goes beyond emotions and finds fulfilment in classic actions and mindsets of lovers as demonstration of their affection and archetype of meaningful romantic interaction, while limiting its accepted meaning to romantic relationship and its persistence. (dissociation from: unconditional love)

Archetypical actions and mindsets
Partners engaged in true love ...
 * will struggle hard to overcome obstacles in the way of a relationship (e.g. religious, cultural, language, social, work related or distance related barriers)
 * weather a crisis that endangers their relationship
 * are not interested in what other people apart from the partner think of their relationship
 * perceive their partner as best friend, lover, confide, critic
 * treasure each moment or togetherness,
 * dread every moment they are apart,
 * are not alone, even if they are separated from each other,
 * love each other for an uncountable number of reasons,
 * care for each other
 * make each other happy throughout everyday life
 * belong together
 * will sacrifice that love for their partner (absolute love)
 * experience or have what most other strive for without ever finding it

Poetic
Boccaccio's novel Decamerone (The Decameron) provides the reader with different meanings of the word love in 14th century Italy. True Love in the context of this work of art survives catastrophic situations and suspicious circumstances.

Mystical
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Scientific
Three partly contradicting neurochemical influences are linked with the creation of the feeling of love. While Oxytocin is responsible for lifelong attachment to a partner, Testosterone levels are responsible for the feeling of passion and Serotonin supports the feeling of joy and happiness while reducing feelings like pain or fear. Blood levels of these substances are known to influence each others excretion and block their respective effects.

Neurochemistry supports the psychological hypothesis that there are three main moments of crisis to be overcome:
 * 3-4 Months: initial feelings of passion (Testosterone, Oestrogen) and attraction (Serotonin, Dopamine, NGF) wear out. Hormonal levels normalize. Level of infatuation is being reduced and the commonly known effect of seeing behavioural patterns and physical attributes of the partner through "rose-coloured glasses" ends.
 * 3-4 Years: Hormonal effects of Oxytocin and Testosterone wear out. Relationship is being perceived as a "mistake". [citation needed]
 * 7 Years: While conflict is not necessarily a reason for unhappy relationships, psychological reasons for coming together regularly turn out invert their effect. This is often the case with couples with conflicting behavioural patterns who are inclined to appreciate the other pattern but will rather be inspired by it and later tolerate it than embrace and integrate those character traits into their own personality. This inability on both sides regularly leads to serious and relationship-changing (and often -ending) conflicts.

Cultural
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Examples
"And there's a lot to be said for communicating with each other and putting a high priority on the marriage. Heidi Klum and Seal renew their vows every year, and in a 2007 story, shared five rules they live by: 1) Find common ground; 2) Seize the moment; 3) Two words: commitment and respect; 4) Embrace both the big and the small gesture; and 5) Put each other first, even before the kids."