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Compassionate communication

http://www.malindaelizabethberry.net/uploads/8/4/7/8/84786408/deck_guide.pdf

https://www.lovesmartcards.com/about/

Words for Feelings
https://www.cnvc.org/training/resource/feelings-inventory

http://www.groktheworld.com/sites/default/files/product-upload-files/Feelings%20Inventory_0.pdf

Body Sensations
http://www.groktheworld.com/sites/default/files/product-upload-files/Body%20Sensations.pdf


 * 1) Achy
 * 2) Airy
 * 3) Antsy
 * 4) Bloated
 * 5) Blocked
 * 6) Bouyiant
 * 7) Breathless
 * 8) Bubbly
 * 9) Burning
 * 10) Buzzy
 * 11) Chilly
 * 12) Cold
 * 13) Cool
 * 14) Congested
 * 15) Constricted
 * 16) Clammy
 * 17) Clenched
 * 18) Damp
 * 19) Dense
 * 20) Dizzy
 * 21) Drained
 * 22) Dull
 * 23) Effervescent
 * 24) Electric
 * 25) Empty
 * 26) Energized
 * 27) Expansive
 * 28) Faint
 * 29) Flaccid
 * 30) Flowing
 * 31) Fluid
 * 32) Flushed
 * 33) Fluttery
 * 34) Frantic
 * 35) Frozen
 * 36) Full
 * 37) Fuzzy
 * 38) Goose bumpy
 * 39) Hollow
 * Hot
 * 1) Heavy
 * Icy
 * 1) Itchy
 * 2) Jittery
 * 3) Jumbled
 * 4) Jumpy
 * Lax
 * 1) Lethargic
 * 2) Light
 * 3) Light-headed
 * 4) Limp
 * 5) Loose
 * 6) Lumpy
 * 7) Mild
 * 8) Nauseous
 * 9) Numb
 * 10) Open
 * 11) Paralyzed
 * 12) Pounding
 * 13) Pressure
 * 14) Prickly
 * 15) Puffy
 * 16) Pulsing
 * 17) Queasy
 * 18) Quivery
 * 19) Radiant
 * 20) Relaxed
 * 21) Scrunchy
 * 22) Shaky
 * 23) Sharp
 * 24) Shivery
 * 25) Shuddery
 * 26) Sneezy
 * 27) Sore
 * 28) Spazzy
 * 29) Spinning
 * 30) Squirrelly
 * 31) Squirmy
 * 32) Still
 * 33) (like I’m)
 * 34) Suffocating
 * 35) Sweaty
 * 36) Teetery
 * 37) Tender
 * 38) Tense
 * 39) Thick
 * 40) Throbbing
 * 41) Tight
 * 42) Tightness of skin
 * 43) Tingly
 * 44) Trembly
 * 45) Tremulous
 * 46) Twisted
 * 47) Twitchy
 * 48) Unstable
 * 49) Warm
 * 50) Weak
 * 51) Wobbly

Needs Inventory
https://www.cnvc.org/training/resource/needs-inventory

http://www.groktheworld.com/sites/default/files/product-upload-files/Needs.pdf

A starting place to find support & facilitate greater understanding

Empathy Buddy Guidelines
Empathy, in NVC, is first and foremost about holding presence for another person. This exercise is designed to recharge our “empathy batteries.”
 * 1) . Review potential Empathy Blockers, and agree that during this time each person will hold the intention of not responding from one of these blockers. (Blockers are things like advising, educating, one-upping, consoling, sympathizing, story-telling, shutting down, interrogating, correcting, reassuring, denial of feelings, minimizing, diagnosing, and analyzing.)
 * 2) . Each person will have _____ minutes of uninterrupted time to talk or just be. The Listener’s task is to be present for the whole unbroken person who is inside their Buddy, the Speaker.
 * 3) . The Speaker lay down Feelings Cards that match their current inner experience as they share about what’s feeling alive in them.
 * 4) . In response, the Listener lays down Needs Cards they are guessing might be connected to the Feelings Cards in front of them: “Are you feeling ____ because of the need for ______?” (Guesses are intuitive offerings, not hypotheses.)
 * 5) . When a variety of Needs Cards are laid down, the Speaker selects the Needs Cards that most resonate for them in that moment.
 * 6) . The process ends with Listener asking, “What request do you have for yourself? What request do you have for me?”
 * 7) . The Speaker and Listener switch roles and repeat the process.

Empathy Buddy Guidelines have been adapted from a process developed by the Maine NVC Network: www.mainenvcnetwork.org.

The words and phrases for needs and feelings on this sheet and the enclosed deck are from the Center for Nonviolent Communication, © 2005: www.cnvc.org cnvc@cnvc.org +1 505.244.4041

Words in [brackets] are additions from the Maine NVC Network.

Character Strengths and Virtues
https://teachingpsychology.files.wordpress.com/2011/11/character-strengths-and-virtues.pdf


 * main article

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Positive_psychology#Character_Strengths_and_Virtues

The development of the Character Strengths and Virtues (CSV) handbook (2004) represented the first attempt by Seligman and Peterson to identify and classify positive psychological traits of human beings. Much like the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) of general psychology, the CSV provided a theoretical framework to assist in understanding strengths and virtues and for developing practical applications for positive psychology. This manual identified 6 classes of virtues (i.e., "core virtues"), underlying 24 measurable character strengths.

The CSV suggested these 6 virtues have a historical basis in the vast majority of cultures; in addition, these virtues and strengths can lead to increased happiness when built upon. Notwithstanding numerous cautions and caveats, this suggestion of universality hints threefold: 1. The study of positive human qualities broadens the scope of psychological research to include mental wellness, 2. the leaders of the positive psychology movement are challenging moral relativism, suggesting people are "evolutionarily predisposed" toward certain virtues, and 3. virtue has a biological basis.

The organization of the 6 virtues and 24 strengths is as follows:
 * 1) Wisdom and knowledge: creativity, curiosity, open-mindedness, love of learning, perspective, innovation
 * 2) Courage: bravery, persistence, integrity, vitality, zest
 * 3) Humanity: love, kindness, social intelligence
 * 4) Justice: citizenship, fairness, leadership
 * 5) Temperance: forgiveness and mercy, humility, prudence, self control
 * 6) Transcendence: appreciation of beauty and excellence, gratitude, hope, humor, spirituality

Recent research challenged the need for 6 virtues. Instead, researchers suggested the 24 strengths are more accurately grouped into just 3 or 4 categories: Intellectual Strengths, Interpersonal Strengths, and Temperance Strengths or alternatively, Interpersonal Strengths, Fortitude, Vitality, and Cautiousness These strengths, and their classifications, have emerged independently elsewhere in literature on values. Paul Thagard described examples; these included Jeff Shrager's workshops to discover the habits of highly creative people. Some research indicates that well-being effects that appear to be due to spirituality are actually better described as due to virtue.


 * subarticle

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Character_Strengths_and_Virtues#Definition_of_strengths_and_virtues

CSV identifies 6 classes of virtue (i.e., "core virtues"), made up of 26 measurable "character strengths": The organization of the 6 virtues and 26 strengths is as follows:
 * 1) Wisdom and Knowledge: creativity, curiosity, open-mindedness, love of learning, perspective, innovation
 * 2) Courage: bravery, persistence, integrity, vitality, zest
 * 3) Humanity: love, kindness, social intelligence
 * 4) Justice: citizenship, fairness, leadership
 * 5) Temperance: forgiveness and mercy, humility, prudence, self control
 * 6) Transcendence: appreciation of beauty and excellence, gratitude, hope, humor, spirituality

CSV defined character strengths as satisfying most of the ten following criteria. Character strengths are fulfilling; intrinsically valuable, in an ethical sense (gifts, skills, aptitudes, and expertise can be squandered, but character strengths and virtues cannot); non-rivalrous; not the opposite of a desirable trait (a counterexample is steadfast and flexible, which are opposites but are both commonly seen as desirable); trait-like (habitual patterns that are relatively stable over time); not a combination of the other character strengths in the CSV; personified (at least in the popular imagination) by people made famous through story, song, etc.; observable in child prodigies (though this criterion is not applicable to all character strengths); absent in some individuals; and nurtured by societal norms and institutions.

The introduction of CSV suggests that these six virtues are considered good by the vast majority of cultures and throughout history and that these traits lead to increased happiness when practiced. Notwithstanding numerous cautions and caveats, this suggestion of universality hints that in addition to trying to broaden the scope of psychological research to include mental wellness, the leaders of the positive psychology movement are challenging moral relativism and suggesting that virtue has a biological basis. These arguments are in line with the science of morality.

Each of the 28 character traits is defined behaviorally, with psychometric evidence demonstrating that it can be reliably measured. The book shows that "empirically minded humanists can measure character strengths and virtues in a rigorous scientific manner."

Practical applications of positive psychology include helping individuals and organizations correctly identify their strengths and use them to increase and sustain their respective levels of well-being. Each trait "provides one of many alternative paths to virtue and well-being." Therapists, counselors, coaches, and various other psychological professionals can use the new methods and techniques to build and broaden the lives of individuals who are not necessarily suffering from mental illness or disorder.

Finally, other researchers have advocated grouping the 26 identified character traits into just four classes of strength (Intellectual, Social, Temperance, Transcendent) or even just three classes (without Transcendence). Not only is this easier to remember, but additionally there is evidence that these adequately capture the components of the 26 original traits.

Perspective and wisdom (personified for example by Ann Landers): the coordination of "knowledge and experience" and "its deliberate use to improve wellbeing." Many, but not all, studies find that adults' self-ratings of perspective/wisdom do not depend on age. This stands in contrast to the popular notion that wisdom increases with age.

Values in Action (VIA) Insititute on Character
https://www.viacharacter.org/

VIA Classification of Character Strengths and Virtues

Virtue of Wisdom

 * 1) Curiosity: Interest, novelty-seeking, exploration, opennessto experience
 * 2) Judgment: Critical thinking, thinking through all sides, not jumping to conclusions
 * 3) Love of Learning: Mastering new skills & topics, systematically adding to knowledge
 * 4) Perspective: Wisdom, providing wise counsel, taking the big picture view
 * 5) Appreciation of Beauty & Excellence: Awe and wonder for beauty, admiration for skill and moral greatness
 * 6) Virtue of Transcendence
 * 7) Gratitude: Thankful for the good, expressing thanks, feeling blessed
 * 8) Hope: Optimism, positive future-mindedness, expecting the best & working to achieve it
 * 9) Humor: Playfulness, bringing smiles to others, lighthearted – seeing the lighter side
 * 10) Spirituality:Connecting with the sacred, purpose, meaning, faith, religiousness

Virtue of Courage

 * 1) Bravery: Valor, not shrinking from threat or challenge, facing fears, speaking up for what’s right
 * 2) Perseverance: Persistence, industry, finishing what one starts, overcoming obstacles
 * 3) Honesty: Authenticity, being true to oneself, sincerity without pretense, integrity
 * 4) Zest: Vitality, enthusiasm for life, vigor, energy, not doing things half-heartedly

Virtue of Humanity

 * 1) Love: Both loving and being loved, valuing close relations with others, genuine warmth
 * 2) Kindness: Generosity, nurturance, care, compassion, altruism, doing for others
 * 3) Social Intelligence: Aware of the motives and feelings of oneself and others, knows what makes others tick

Virtue of Justice

 * 1) Teamwork: Citizenship, social responsibility, loyalty, contributing to a group effort
 * 2) Fairness: Adhering to principles of justice, not allowing feelings to bias decisions about others
 * 3) Leadership: Organizing group activities to get things done, positively influencing others

Virtue of Temperance

 * 1) Forgiveness: Mercy, accepting others’ shortcomings, giving people a second chance, letting go of hurt
 * 2) Humility: Modesty, letting one’s accomplishments speak for themselves
 * 3) Prudence: Careful about one’s choices, cautious, not taking undue risks
 * 4) Self-Regulation: Self-control, disciplined, managing impulses, emotions,

Virtue of Transcendence

 * 1) Appreciation of Beauty & Excellence: Awe and wonder for beauty, admiration for skill and moral greatness
 * 2) Gratitude: Thankful for the good, expressing thanks, feeling blessed
 * 3) Hope: Optimism, positive future-mindedness, expecting the best & working to achieve it
 * 4) Humor: Playfulness, bringing smiles to others, lighthearted – seeing the lighter side
 * 5) Spirituality: Connecting with the sacred, purpose, meaning, faith, religiousness

VirturesProject.com
https://www.virtuesproject.com/Pdf/100Virtueshandout.pdf

https://virtuesproject.com/Pdf/VirtuesDefinitions.pdf

"Educational" list

 * 1) Assertiveness
 * 2) Caring
 * 3) Cleanliness
 * 4) Compassion
 * 5) Confidence
 * 6) Consideration
 * 7) Courage
 * 8) Courtesy
 * 9) Creativity
 * 10) Detachment
 * 11) Determination
 * 12) Enthusiasm
 * 13) Excellence
 * 14) Faithfulness
 * 15) Flexibility
 * 16) Forgiveness
 * 17) Friendliness
 * 18) Generosity
 * 19) Gentleness
 * 20) Helpfulness
 * 21) Honesty
 * 22) Honor
 * 23) Humility
 * 24) Idealism
 * 25) Joyfulness
 * 26) Justice
 * 27) Kindness
 * 28) Love
 * 29) Loyalty
 * 30) Mercy
 * 31) Moderation
 * 32) Modesty
 * 33) Obedience
 * 34) Orderliness
 * 35) Patience
 * 36) Peacefulness
 * 37) Prayerfulness
 * 38) Purposefulness
 * 39) Reliability
 * 40) Respect
 * 41) Responsibility
 * 42) Reverence
 * 43) Self-Discipline
 * 44) Service
 * 45) Steadfastness
 * 46) Tact
 * 47) Thankfulness
 * 48) Tolerance
 * 49) Trust
 * 50) Trustworthiness
 * 51) Truthfulness
 * 52) Unity

"Adults'" list

 * 1) Accountability
 * 2) Appreciation
 * 3) Assertiveness
 * Awe
 * 1) Beauty
 * 2) Caring
 * 3) Certitude
 * 4) Charity
 * 5) Cheerfulness
 * 6) Cleanliness
 * 7) Commitment
 * 8) Compassion
 * 9) Confidence
 * 10) Consideration
 * 11) Contentment
 * 12) Cooperation
 * 13) Courage
 * 14) Courtesy
 * 15) Creativity
 * 16) Decisiveness
 * 17) Detachment
 * 18) Determination
 * 19) Devotion
 * 20) Dignity
 * 21) Diligence
 * 22) Discernment
 * 23) Empathy
 * 24) Endurance
 * 25) Enthusiasm
 * 26) Excellence
 * 27) Fairness
 * 28) Faith
 * 29) Faithfulness
 * 30) Fidelity
 * 31) Flexibility
 * 32) Forbearance
 * 33) Forgiveness
 * 34) Fortitude
 * 35) Friendliness
 * 36) Generosity
 * 37) Gentleness
 * 38) Grace
 * 39) Gratitude
 * 40) Helpfulness
 * 41) Honesty
 * 42) Honor
 * 43) Hope
 * 44) Humanity
 * 45) Humility
 * 46) Idealism
 * 47) Independence
 * 48) Initiative
 * 49) Integrity
 * 50) Joyfulness
 * 51) Justice
 * 52) Kindness
 * 53) Love
 * 54) Loyalty
 * 55) Mercy
 * 56) Mindfulness
 * 57) Moderation
 * 58) Modesty
 * 59) Nobility
 * 60) Openness
 * 61) Optimism
 * 62) Orderliness
 * 63) Patience
 * 64) Peacefulness
 * 65) Perceptiveness
 * 66) Perseverance
 * 67) Prayerfulness
 * 68) Purity
 * 69) Purposefulness
 * 70) Reliability
 * 71) Resilience
 * 72) Respect
 * 73) Responsibility
 * 74) Reverence
 * 75) Righteousness
 * 76) Sacrifice
 * 77) Self-discipline
 * 78) Serenity
 * 79) Service
 * 80) Simplicity
 * 81) Sincerity
 * 82) Steadfastness
 * 83) Strength
 * 84) Tact
 * 85) Thankfulness
 * 86) Thoughtfulness
 * 87) Tolerance
 * 88) Trust
 * 89) Trustworthiness
 * 90) Truthfulness
 * 91) Understanding
 * 92) Unity
 * 93) Wisdom
 * 94) Wonder
 * 95) Zeal

Positive Words Dictionary
https://positivewordsdictionary.com/

The [|Self] within Internal Family Systems Model therapy
http://www.drcharlesbonner.com/internal-family-systems-model.html

http://nebula.wsimg.com/c5ba00547e539020032a8e18485f6ff2?AccessKeyId=1E15AA41B5D9BBC1C941&disposition=0&alloworigin=1

https://quizlet.com/251696383/internal-family-systems-skills-training-manual-flash-cards/


 * The 8-plus-5 Cs & Ps of Self"


 * 1) Curiosity
 * 2) Calm
 * 3) Clarity
 * 4) Connectedness
 * 5) Confidence
 * 6) Courage
 * 7) Creativity
 * 8) Compassion
 * 9) Presence
 * 10) Patience
 * 11) Persistence
 * 12) Perspective
 * 13) Playfulness

Misc.
https://ppc.sas.upenn.edu/learn-more/readings-and-videos

https://brilliantstarmagazine.org/uploads/about/Style_Guide/VIRTUES.pdf

https://books.google.com/books?id=AQgnCAAAQBAJ&pg=PA83&lpg=#v=onepage&q&f=false

https://books.google.com/books?id=QCi7BAAAQBAJ&pg=PT67&lpg=#v=onepage&q&f=false