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It is not the obligation of other editors to find references that disprove incorrect and unsupported claims. If you can't support your claims, they don't belong in the article. Arllaw (talk) 21:22, 19 March 2021 (UTC) I have been following this dialogue, and there are some serious POV issues.The logic of this is specious. You are asserting that a source is incorrect. That is your burden. The source is not incorrect on your say so,it is a WP:RS. A reliable source by itself is correct and supported.

In May 2016, two relevant authors of DSM-5, DSM-5 research director Dr. Narrow and DSM-5 contributor/consultant Dr. Wamboldt, elaborated on their decision to not include parental alienation syndrome, saying they rejected it because DSM-5 disorders require that only a single person be involved, not because they doubted parental alienation's reality or importance, and they noted that parental alienation is included in the relational, V-Code section of DSM-5 under broader categories including Child Affected by Parental Relationship Distress and Child Psychological Abuse. [bernet]

These parents may "parentify their own children", "excessively bind their children to themselves", "demand absolute, unlimited control over their children while threatening rejection", project their own fears onto the other parent, abandon their spouse in favor of their children, and revive their own childhood attachment trauma after a difficult experience.

https://books.google.com/books?id=gxpXTm9T1MsC&printsec=frontcover&dq=textbook+of+personality+disorders&hl=en&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwi_vMyr8LbKAhXKyIMKHdMAB8MQ6AEINDAB#v=onepage&q=%22excessively%20bind%20their%20children%20to%20themselves%22&f=false

https://books.google.com/books?id=gxpXTm9T1MsC&printsec=frontcover&dq=textbook+of+personality+disorders&hl=en&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwjxlPDq87bKAhXnm4MKHSBDDcAQ6AEINTAB#v=onepage&q=%22The%20unconscious%20projection%20of%20feared%20separation%22&f=false

https://books.google.com/books?id=gxpXTm9T1MsC&pg=PA364&lpg=PA364&dq=%22exert+extreme+possessiveness+of+their+children+and+demand+absolute,+unlimited+control+while+threatening+rejection%22&source=bl&ots=lqbwQsEglS&sig=uhjl-KP-042Z9Q65c0Z4sjh6rv0&hl=en&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwiv_Oid0KjKAhUEND4KHR7YAa0Q6AEIHDAA#v=onepage&q=%22exert%20extreme%20possessiveness%20of%20their%20children%20and%20demand%20absolute%2C%20unlimited%20control%20while%20threatening%20rejection%22&f=false

https://books.google.com/books?id=gxpXTm9T1MsC&pg=PA364&dq=%22Borderline+patients+tend+to+parentify+their+own+children%22&hl=en&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwjqqOvnjaDKAhUDrD4KHRxiAAwQ6AEIJjAA#v=snippet&q=%22Borderline%20patients%20tend%20to%20parentify%22&f=false

https://books.google.com/books?id=gxpXTm9T1MsC&pg=PA364&dq=%22Once+a+child+arrives+on+the+scene,+one+or+both+of+the+spouses+abandon+each+other+in+favor%22&hl=en&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwi_we6sjqDKAhVMPz4KHcWVCQ0Q6AEIHzAA#v=onepage&q=%22Once%20a%20child%20arrives%20on%20the%20scene%2C%20one%20or%20both%20of%20the%20spouses%20abandon%20each%20other%20in%20favor%22&f=false

https://books.google.com/books?id=gxpXTm9T1MsC&pg=PA364&dq=%22projection+of+disavowed+elements+of+the+self+onto+the+spouse+has+the+effect+of+charging+a+marital+relationship%22&hl=en&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwi_q7XkjqDKAhXJ8z4KHbXbCQ0Q6AEIHTAA#v=onepage&q=%22projection%20of%20disavowed%20elements%20of%20the%20self%20onto%20the%20spouse%20has%20the%20effect%20of%20charging%20a%20marital%20relationship%22&f=false

Adding additional diverse references

6 peer reviewed studies show that parental alienation is child abuse show

According to a report, when these symptoms present, structured intervention is more effective than traditional counseling. Structured intervention involves:
 * developing critical thinking to overcome rejection and enmeshment dynamics
 * resetting the child's place in the family hierarchy
 * temporarily protecting the child from the bad parenting practices of the enmeshed parent.

Traditional counseling, based on the therapeutic alliance, is susceptible to:
 * delays from a lack of milestones and schedules
 * sabotage by a parent with an interest in making it fail
 * exclusive focus on a child's feelings and complaints to the exclusion of addressing the family system
 * the ineffectiveness of a parent apologizing for fabricated, exaggerated, or distorted complaints.

Viewpoints on Whether Parental Alienation is Child Psychological Abuse
There are diverse opinions on whether severe parental alienation is psychological child abuse. In no particular order, views include:
 * viewpoint1: since there is no such thing as parental alienation, it cannot be child psychological abuse. Some of the reasons for not accepting include that it is a relationship problem, that is is junk science, that there is no data, and it is not included in DSM 5 by name, that if a child rejects a parent that parent is inadequate or abusive, that it is away for people to avoid blame for being inadequate, that it is a way for people to make money[making divorce pay], and that it is a way to get custody to keep on abusing children
 * viewoint2: it is self evident that severe parental alienation is child psychological abuse
 * viewpoint3: "children are resilient" and that "courts and evaluators should operate from a healthy appreciation for the range of imperfect parenting that children everywhere survive".
 * viewoint4: the underlying clinical construct of what is known as "parental alienation" is valid, but it is not a new phenomenon, but rather a combination of well understood psychological problems and that the symptoms caused in the child rise to the level of DSM 5 psychological abuse. At the point where a child displays the symptoms of lack of attachment, grandiosity, haughty arrogance, entitlement, splitting, and a fixed false belief system, that bad parenting practices are the cause and therefore that bad parenting is abusive because of the psychological harm represented by the symptoms and the enmeshment and the DSM 5 definition
 * viewpoint5: some people believe that since the pushing away could be due to child sexual abuse, so an analysis of child psychological abuse is relatively less important and the focus should be on the possibility of child sexual abuse
 * viewpoint6: There might be such a thing as parental alienation, but inter-rater reliability is higher for APSAC definitions than parental alienation
 * viewpoint8: telling a child negative things destroys them. In a 1980's judicial opinion widely cited in appellate courts and also by Ann Landers, Judge Haas noted that "every time you tell your child what an 'idiot' his father is, or what a 'fool' his mother is, or how bad the absent parent is, or what terrible things that person has done, you are telling the child half of HIM is bad. That is an unforgivable thing to do to a child. That is not love! That is possession. If you do that to your children, you will destroy them as surely as if you had cut them into pieces, because that is what you are doing to their emotions."
 * viewpoint9: multiple peer reviewed studies conclude that parental alienation is child psychological abuse
 * viewpoint10: parental alienation is abusive  under the 1995 consensus APSAC definition of Child Psychological Maltreatment,    [merck]which is defined as
 * Either any of these things
 * Spurning - Denigrating the child by denigrating the parent, whom the child is half of. Failure to acknowledge the independent person that the child is, as different than the alienating parent. If they are misled to believe the other parent does not love them
 * Terrorizing - an alienator uses pressure to communicate that the child must fear losing the aligned parents love (conditional love). Teaching the child to fear the other parent.
 * Isolating - the child is isolated from one parent and often that parent's side of the family
 * Exploiting - inflicting wrath on the other parent by using children as a vehicle
 * Corrupting - encouraging the child to refuse to comply with court orders. Encouraging the child to discuss false allegations. Encouraging cruel and disrespectful behavior
 * Denying Emotional Responsiveness - The child loses an emotional connection with the rejected parent. Child punished when attempting to connect with the other parent.
 * Neglect - Not providing for the counseling needs of the child
 * OR this companion APSAC definition: "A repeated pattern of caregiver behavior or extreme incident(s) that convey to children that they are worthless, flawed, unloved, unwanted, endangered, or only of value in meeting another's needs"
 * Because children are half of both parents, if one parent is worthless or flawed, half of the child must be also.
 * If there is an allegation that one parent abandoned the child, the child may feel unloved and unwanted.
 * If there is a false allegation that the other parent is dangerous, the child may feel endangered.
 * If a parent uses a child to get revenge against the other parent, the child may believe that they are useful only in meeting the needs of the vengeful parent.[bakercoparenting2013]

Context that may be relevant to some viewpoints includes:
 * XXXX number of states have laws against causing mental injury to a child
 * In 2013, the APA included Child Psychological Maltreatment in DSM 5 and some observes believe the area is underdeveloped because DSM 5 is about billing insurance companies and phenomenon between involving multiple people are underdeveloped [Include DSM 5 definition]
 * In 2014, the American Psychological Association noted that "Child Psychological Abuse [is] as Harmful as Child Sexual or Physical Abuse" [apa2014][nymag][many more], that it can be hard to recognize, and that is is the most prevalent form of child abuse. It called for greater awareness and emphasis. It endorsed research published in one of its journals journals and referenced conclusions from the American Academy of Pediatrics. [apa2014] The APA did not specifically mention parental alienation.

Implications
If this theoretical formulation is correct, that these symptoms in a child arise from harmful parenting practices and no other explanations area available, then for a child displaying these serious symptoms, it suggests there is a child protection issue and that relevant DSM-5 diagnostic code is V995.51, Child Psychological Abuse, invoking a duty to protect.