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The Wolf Pack

Chapter 3 How Self Concept Develops 1. Personality and Biology Self Concept Develops through how your personality envelops, they go hand in hand. Take a bird for instance who has been caged for his entire life, you release this bird and it doesn't fly away. it has developed a way to circumvent the norm. instead of flying away it stays in the place it has always know! this indeed is how a personality develops, this bird will hunt and work around its cage that it has always known because it knows nothing else. What say for humans then? How do Relationships Develop between humans? Relationships develop a multitude of ways! 2.Gender Roles Gender Roles play a key part in how relationships develop. The factor of where you stand on the gender spectrum affects how you can properly relate to people and how you talk casually to each gender. Men for instance will speak easily to other men while women will do the same to their gender. Because they can relate to them. Your Gender Role affects the way you develop Relationships because of the simple fact that there are more than one gender and that in itself creates a boundary that cannot be crossed socially. Take Men vs Women for instance. there are laws against men harming women but there are not many laws against women harming men.This is here gender Roles come into play, in the eyes of the law and history, men are more likely to harm a women than vice versa. That is why there are laws in place and why felonies are cast on the men who break these laws.

How Self Concept Develops II: Reflected Appraisal: Reflected Appraisal is how you feel you are viewed by your peers and how that effects your ego and your will to communicate with people. Every Person wants to feel accepted, and the struggle to be accepted by who you view as peers will always be a struggle for most. It is a mental battle between yourself because at the end of the day most people like you unless you act our and spread a harsh tone through out your peer groups. Reflected appraisal is gained through social interation and what one person perceives as gaining friends. Social Interaction is key to gaining reflect appraisal and it is what the person on the receiver end seeks when engaging in society.

Social Comparison: Social Comparison is when a individual judges themselves based off of their peers and preconceived notients of beauty standards. this in effect can prove disastrous for most people but it is a concept we all engage in! Whether iy be at party and rating the other girls that are there compared to you, or its through two men compete-ting in track and field and how they view each other. There are many variables in which people stack themselves up against their peers, even down to their drinking habits. As a society we compare each other almost daily whether it be through social media or movies. We find solace in other peoples lives and that is something we will continue to do as the years go on.

Chapter 5 Language is Symbolic: This concept means that different a word may represent an idea but doesn’t mean it always mean the same thing as the intended object or idea. A good example of this would be American Sign Language. Although they're certain symbols that represent a specific letter in the alphabet, that wouldn’t always be the case though. Another example is Morse code. What makes them very distinct is that they're long pauses and beeps, depending on how they are used can be interpreted in many  different ways.

Language has layers of meaning: There are some words that can have a specific meaning to the symbol or object. With denotative meaning, this means the word is at it applies to the dictionary. On the other hand, a connotative meaning can have a different affect behind the meaning and sometimes, even the word itself.

 Semantic triangle:  There are three elements that is referred to this when defining a meaning. They are symbol, referent, and reference. When people say let’s go out. This cold means many things. It could refer to going out watch a movie, or even sometimes going out to eat for lunch. There are many different ranges that are within this area.

'''2b. Loaded Language:''' Now with this concept, it’s literally a big one. Loaded language can have positive or even negative meanings. There are also feelings of emotion that can be behind this as well. A good example of this would be advice from your parents. Now, these advices can either be good advice and leaves a positive impression on you or it could be negative, where taking your parents bad advice could lead to consequences soon.

Naming Defines and Differentiates: What really defines us to where it belongs to us, but constantly used by others frequently? Our names! Our names define who we are as unique individuals and really defines a sense of self-identity.

Naming and Identity: Aside from providing the sense of individuality, names are also important at creating first impressions, especially if you’re meeting someone new or important. Culture and demographics also play a key role in identifying people as well. Names like Juan, Nita, Jose, and Yennefer are associated with the Latino culture, while as Huong, Tan, Jun, Sakura, and Jayvin are associated with the Asian culture.

Naming Practices: Another unique identity that our names can be associated with is religion. Some names such as Maria, Jesus, Paul, and David may seem a common name to most people. But to the religious group, those names have a significance within the culture.

Hate Speech: Unfortunately, with every positive to a language, there are also negatives as well. Hate speech have many ways in which this speech dehumanizes and make people feel less of a person because of their heritage, background, and yes, even language. Words like “fag” or “trash” is not only hurtful, but also attacks the individual sense of identity. As of 2015, only 4 states in the entire country has made hate speech an illegal act.

Chapter 10 Communicating in friendships There are various friendships when it comes to relationships. These friendships are determined by the individual and relationship that has been created. Some of them are long term as well as short term. Many of them are created at work, place or even a place you hang out often. According to the book, there are five common characteristics of friendship. First, friendships are voluntary. Friendships are special because both parties choose each other. Friendship is a relationship in which you feel comfortable and the bond is enjoyable in both parties. Second, friends are usually peers. We surround ourselves with people who are similar in power or status. We feel the most comfortable when we are around people who are our equals. According to Floyd, 2017 pg 311, our instructors, boss and parents are not our peers because those people exercise some measure of control over us. Friendships are governed by rules is the third characteristic, we would all agree that a friendship is like a social contract. Everyone expects something from the other party, you expect them to follow the friendship rules. According to Floyd, 2017 pg. 311 there are six friendship rules that are extremely important. Standing up for your friends and supporting them is very important, offering resources to your friends also benefits both. Being enjoyable to be around is something both sides want to see. Providing help without being asked, sharing common interests and viewpoints and lastly be the kind of person with whom friends can share thoughts and secrets. It is very important to have these characteristics in a friendship for them to succeed and be long term. Friendships differ by sex is the forth characteristic, same-sex friends is seen very often because many men and woman have different views and values. This does not mean the relationships are more important to one gender. Friendships have a lifespan is the fifth character. Not all friendships last forever, as you get older your opinions change and there are disagreements. According to Floyd, 2017 pg. 315 friends can grow to dislike each other. This happens when there is constant nag or criticize from either side of the party. It also happens when one betrays the other;s confidence or trust. When you feel like you can no longer trust someone, they automatically stop being a friend. When someone begins abusing alcohol or drugs, the friendship usually ends. There are many more reasons why friends grow to dislike each other, a life long friendship is commitment between both.

Communicating in romantic relationships According to Floyd, 2017 pg. 316, the most intimate relationships is often the one we share with our romantic partner. In these relationships we create a mentally, emotionally, physically, financially and even spiritually.Many romantic relationships expect to be exclusive. These relationships are monogamy, being in one romantic relationship at a time and avoiding romantic or sexual involvement with others. There are many people who were raised with the culture to only build a relationship with one person and make it stronger. Many people want to feel trust and loyalty from their partner and this comes with respecting each other and being able to trust one another. Being committed to one person is very important for a long term relationship. There are also different believes in a relationship, one side of the party can believe in infidelity. Infidelity means having romantic or sexual interaction with someone outside of one’s romantic relationship. This usually has a negative outcome. It takes a toll on one the other side of the party because the trust and loyalty is taken away. Many relationships do not make out together. Most of the romantic relationships are voluntary. People choose who they want to be with and what morals and values they are looking for. As you get older your expectations change, this helps you decide what you look for in your partner. Most people want to provide stability for their children and their religious beliefs disallow separation or divorce. When these are not reached, many people leave the relationship. Being in love is a culture in the Western, people believe marriage is based one love, however in individualist societies people believe their choices should be based on love and attraction. This attraction comes with the materialistic items one has. The power they consist of and the wealth they can bring. There are three different types of marriages that are very common. These consist of traditional, separate and independent. Traditional couples are cultured believers. There believes consist of the old traditions, the wife stays at home to cook, clean and raise their children. Separate couples can be a little like the traditional couples, however they both have different interests. They have their own friends and believes, these couples do not depend on each other when it comes to their opinion. Lastly independent couples see themselves as being independent of social expectations for marriage. The wife might be the one working and the male might be a stay at home dad. They do not live their lives following their old traditions.

Communicating in families: What is a family? According to Floyd, 2017 pg. 327 a family is made up of different components such as 1. Genetic Ties 2. Legal obligations and 3. Role Behaviors. Genetic ties are your “blood family”. The legal obligations are from like your parents, by law you parents have to feed you cloth you and put a roof over your head. Failure to do so will result in you being taken away from your parents. Lastly role behaviors, is when someone plays the part of being your family. Now this could be a friend, it does not have to be a blood relative. So the big question is do you have to be related by blood to be family? Absolutely not! Having a family comes with communication, with communication issues can arise. Lack of communication can break the family apart and great communication can really bring the family together. If you are not sure if your family has good or bad communication skills play the game telephone. If you do not know how to play click this link and you can see. The avengers have poor communication and listening skills. Families have four communication issues; Family, Roles, Rituals, Stories and Secrets. Family roles become an issues because when a conflict arises, we have a blamer, who refuse to accept any responsibility in the conflict instead accuses everyone else to be at fault, then you have the peacemaker who will do anything to make sure the issue is resolved, third you have the logic thinker who tries to reason with logic to find a solution, and lastly you have the distracter who makes jokes, or whatever is necessary to get everyone's mind off the problem. The behavior by the blamer and the distracter usually just cause more issues. Second issues is family rituals, family rituals can cause issues because when people get married they mix families and most families do not have the same rituals especially if dating outside of your race, or ethnicity. Some cultures are really big on certain holidays while others don't care to much about it and therefore can cause issues because of lack of communication between the couple. Lastly is family secrets and family issues, these go hand and hand. Family stories are those stories you hear from your grandparents about how back in the old days they did this and this and while you are hearing this family story sometimes they have secrets in there too. Perhaps they do not believe a child is old enough to hear the full story to they keep some parts of the story out and if they child finds out that wasn't the whole story it can lead to plenty of issues later on. A good example of this is when you go on a family vacation and you take your pet dog with you along for the ride. Unfortunately somehow while on a restroom break the dog got out of the car and gets hit by a car and dies. Instead of your parents telling you the dog died they might tell you that it ran away. Life goes on and you tell that story over and over on how you lost your dog and how you hope it is with a good family, and if the child finds out it was really hit by a car and did not run away the child is going to be upset that the parents kept it a secret for so long.

Communicating in the workplace: Communicating with coworkers can be very difficult especially if yall have different sets of opinions. When working on a group project in the workplace or in general in order for the project to move forward, it is very important that everyone communicates efficiently. Marjorie North, from the Harvard Professional Development she wrote an article on “How to Communicate More Effectively in the Workplace.” in this article she talks about how it is important to understand the communication styles of everyone in the group. People who are introverts take time to process and reflect on ideas, while someone who is an extrovert thinks out loud and gives immediate feedback. Taking a personality test like the Myer-Briggs Type Indicator could help when it comes to choosing which co-workers will work best together. Second, she talks about group problem solving, in group work or in work conflicts it is best to “Identify the problem, Ventilate feelings, Describe the problem, and Develop solutions” (North, Harvard Professional Development) First you must identify the issue if not then nothing will ever get resolved, second you must speak how you feel and allow others to say how they are feeling because everyone must feel valued. Thirdly describing the problem, does everyone understand the issue at hand? Has everyone voiced the opinion of the issue going on? And Lastly develop solutions, if everyone proposes a solution or if your boss/supervisor comes up with several solutions everyone could discuss which ones might work and which ones might not work and from there everyone can vote on the best solution for the workplace. Lastly Marjorie North talks about how criticism can cause conflicts in the workplace. Usually this comes from superiors, superios come in and give the workers some sort of criticism and although criticism can be good it is not always welcomed. So the best way to avoid conflicts is to prepare yourself to receive criticism, if everyone can prepare themselves a whole lot of conflicts could be avoided. When receiving criticism keep an open mind and “ask for examples of the behavior and avoid becoming defensive.” (North, Harvard Professional Development). Try to keep the conversation “collaborative and focused on a solution, so you can maintain emotional control.” (North, Harvard Professional Development) In conclusion, effective communication skills can go a long way but poor communication skills could result in all the issues talked about above. If you are still unsure what are good and bad communication skills here is a video to help you visualize them better.

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