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Should marriages be arranged by parents or not?

Relationships are the most important things in life. And marriage is one of the most important relationships. Having said that, it becomes even more important who arranges the marriage, whether its ourselves or someone else like our parents or friends. Th e issue has taken the place of an important social problem. Different people have different opinions coming from different age groups from the different parts of the world.

Marriage as we can see is a commitment of spending the rest of our life with someone. This has a great impact on our life, career and personality. So, should we let our parents decide so much for us? To start with, it can be answered positively. They are more experienced and well-placed in the society. They understand people better and thus, understand us better than we do sometimes. Moreover, being our parents, they want the best for us all the time.

In many country divorce rate for arranged marriages is very low as compare to love marriages but in someothers country divorce rate for both marriages is very low.

It may seem to be as simple but in reality its not. The choice of our life partner should have our say in it. Of course! How can we marry someone who we don't know? Is it possible to stay along with the person and share everything that we have in our life ? From this point of view it mat not look sensible at all. Considering that all of us has the right to decide for ourselves once we are grown up and matured, the right of the choosing our life partner should be given to us and no one else unless of course we forfeit it to someone else.

Coming back to the arguments, we can see around us and observe how many 'love marriages' have been successful? In some parts of the world they stay in but unfortunately in many other places the fail to develop into life-long relationships. The mostly youn g couples complain of misunderstandings, concealed truths about each other and making a 'hurried and emotional decision', which they regret. Most of them mentally suffer because of this and their performance goes down. They go on to face social and psycho logical problems and life-long in some cases. Issues common to both arranged and love marriage •	Although cultures have built several safeguards against fraud (such as the family's reputation being at stake), there are instances where a key fact is left out during the process of the marriage, only to be learned afterwards. An example might be if one of the spouses has a medical condition that is not disclosed before marriage. Although the marriage may not have occurred had that condition been disclosed prior to marriage, it is very difficult to leave afterwards and there may be no legal recourse. •	Parents and other relatives who have been involved in the marriage arrangements have an emotional investment in the success of the marriage.If there are problems in the marriage, well-meaning elders may intervene to sort things out. Of course, this is a two-edged sword — outside interference can often make things worse between a couple.

The only lesson that can be taken from these cases is not to repeat their mistakes. We have to try to rely on our parents' goodwill and wisdom. We have to let our parents arrange our marriages.