User:Killset700/Special Friends

Special Friends. This term may be used to refer to any of the following.

A friendship that is more than simply friends, possibly non romantic.

A friend with benefits, Casual Relationship,or someone you are dating. While the relationship may not be serious, it is more committed than a casual sex, and Friends With Benefits relationship. If it is a sexual or romantic relationship.

In a special friend relationship, one party has a significant emotional attachment to the special friend, this is often problematic as these feelings are not always returned. And has often been used by the second party to take advantage of the first party. Frequently he/she will cultivate and use a special friend relationship to gain sexual or romantic privileges from the special friend. Leading them on, and never delivering anything more than "friendship". This is the case when he/she wants something/someone to do, but is not interested in the other person as a long lasting relationship. A stop gap for a bad dating or sex life. In the authors opinion, this is detestable.

It can also simply be a friend who has helped you out, or means a lot to you as a friend, but nothing more.

However when used of a person referring to a member of the opposite sex, it nearly always indicates a romantic and or sexual relationship.

The differences are primarily based upon the user’s definition of Special Friend. Note, that while this relationship may include sexual activities, much like a friend with benefits, it can also refer to a sexual relationship, In which both parties are more committed to each other than in a casual sexual relationship, a friends with benefits relationship, or a one night stand. Such as a person referring to someone they are dating or sleeping with as their special friend.

Unfortunately the term is broadly ambiguous, it can mean anything from really good friends, to committed sex buddies. The meaning is usually that of a good, or trustworthy friend when used by older people. Though when used by today’s youth, and people under forty five, it tends to refer to a sexual, romantic, or extramarital relationship.

Lastly it can be, and has been used in a derogatory sense, to refer to a friendship between a non handicapped, and a mentally or otherwise handicapped (and or) disabled person. Though this usage generally refers to a younger handicapped person. Often used with, or, in lieu of special helper, special person. This can be an extremely offensive term if used to mock a person who suffers from mental or physical handicaps.

Due to the many and varied uses of the term special friend, one should pick a more precise term. This will help to avoid any misunderstandings which often arise when the term is used. Especially when applied to a member of the opposite sex.