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 Personsanalysis: how to interpret & modify psychosomatic alterations in a person, persons & people, to improve ourselves and to gradually, very gradually achieve perfection (the zen void).

Know & change thyself\yourselves by action, knowledge, methods and training.

Life can be a wonderful explosion of colourful fireworks on a quiet summer's night on sipping the sweet cold drinks of life or a series of terrible nightmares like walking alone along the borders of tremendous gloomy abysses while the heart is beating, the breast aching, the temples pulsing and our bodies are all sweaty. Abruptly we wake up and tremble. Our tiny ego is stuck to its impotence while the blasts of the storm whip violently. Alone, scared of sinking down, we ask in vain for help, for a saver. We are like the Ancient Mariner in an emotional storm:

And now the Storm –Blast came, and he Was tyrannous and strong; He struck with his o’ertaking wings“

Alone, alone, all, all alone, Alone on a wide wide sea! And never a saint took pity on My soul in agony.

This book is dedicated to these “chased”, entrapped persons (I was one of them) to make them see that many of their problems have been created during their lives because of bad experiences, which have become mis-(wrong) patterns of behaviour, bad upbringing and negative cultures (personal and collective). We have been unlucky to be born and live in the wrong place, with wrong people and in negative situations. What happened was not our or others’ (it might be) fault. It just happened. We are neither bad nor good. We are what we are at a given time. If we do not like it, we have to change. We are not victims of any destiny. Remember the Latin sentence: homo faber ipsius fortunae = we must create our own destiny \fortune. Self –blaming is the wrong attribution of fault. Feeling guilty, if we are not, stems from the Catholic ^Ax (mis-axiom) and ^CC(mis-conception) that we are all sinners because of the original sin. Things happen if we want or do not. The world is full with so many competitors. Everybody makes their own game. You have to understand that if you have undergone negative experiences, you can change them. It is not easy but it is not impossible. You need the right models of understanding, training and acting\doing. Some behaviours are created by us unwillingly as wrong responses to menacing, (we believe they are but they often are not), PET (persons, events, things). These negative behaviours become personal neo-instincts, aspecific, wrong, ineffective variations of the collective ones. They are like hidden solid rocks against which our conscious ship risks being ripped. This hidden part of us is our main problem because we grope in the dark when we want or need to access and control it. We have two different brains with different structures and ways of acting \ reacting and inhibition. One is very fast because it “reasons” in milliseconds. It is based on ASA (automatic, subliminal, autonomous) perceiving, interpreting and somatic reactions whereas the other is slower but more powerful. Both of them are necessary to make us live and survive but we must exploit them according to their potentialities. Obviously not all people have been unlucky during their childhood, youth and afterwards but life is changeable so we must be apt to tackle any adversity, in case we should come across any. Traumas are a heavy challenge to our balance. They affect perception (P), all mental processes, somatic reactions and behaviours besides creating various Triggers, which start without our being aware of them. A friend of mine, who was extrovert and talkative, became introvert, silent and sad after a terrible earthquake. Not all persons share these M or ASA neo-instincts because every person can have his\her own. Moreover, the subliminality of their activators\Tr. and the compulsion and intensity of FIDE stages (frequency, intensity, duration, extension) vary according to the personal kind of trauma and subsequent developments. We perceive them because they are expressed through our “bodies and minds”. I still use general and vague words but you will find exact ones for every aspect of our inner personal processes and behaviours. I have coined new words to express new concepts and experiences more precisely. On this field you had better avoid approximate, imprecise words and expressions as far as possible. They make waste time and efforts. Unfortunately, there are too many. Epigenetics is trying to explain the personal modulations of genes and genetic materials, which are necessary to have us adapt to the environment and milieus. It seems to offer us a way out to the dictatorship of genetics. (see Bruce Lipton The Biology of Belief but skip the last part because it is too subjective.). My first aim is to let you understand how M or neo-instincts i.e. “anguish, fear and impotence” spawn and to give you the effective methods and the appropriate techniques to understand, control and overcome them. From now on, our Polar Star should be “know and change thyself\yourselves” as knowledge if not transferred to action for change may be useless. In Italian there is this beautiful proverb: “tra il dire e il fare c’è di mezzo il mare” (between saying and doing there is a sea = a deep gap). You will be able to face the single aspects of your problems and take exercise to develop the right methods (order and method as Poirot used to say) to accomplish what you want to do within the limits of the nature of things and events. After you have learnt to survive storms, you can sail any ocean. The second consists in creating a theoretical framework for the innumerable theories and practices that abound in the field of psychology and analogous disciplines. They often don’t help people and experts to individuate and avoid quick sands. They sometimes give good advice but it is often too generic. The third deals with the analysis of the contexts\cultures where we were brought up and of cultures in general, which do not often allow us to understand, control and guide our bodies and minds adequately. They do not always let us understand the uniqueness of our life and how to intervene when negative experiences cast us adrift. Another aim is to empty out our minds of prehistoric, medieval, animistic mis-conceptions (^CC) and similar junk, still present in the mind of persons and peoples but many do not realize. Some think they are modern because they use new gadgets. The last one is to link the spirit of western and eastern cultures, to give clearer methods to reach liberation or to approach it, to fill the gap between the scientific and humanistic disciplines, mind and body, medicine\biology and psychology, practice\skills and theory. Any piece of knowledge and every discipline can give us some help to discard all that is useless after having experimented each of them. Furthermore, technology is changing our societies fast so we must be ready to face these new challenges both individually and socially or else a new stage of slavery will flood us. At present, Italy is unable to face them because there is not a central strategy. There is only a non-creative anarchy. Nobody but ourselves can compel us to live badly if we are not too unlucky. As Zen says: from the void (lack of anger and\or feeling impotent) action blossoms. It seems a paradox but anguish is often the fruit of bad experiences, turned into mis-convictions\axioms and mis-(bad) models of reasoning and behaviour that trigger it. Can they guide us in challenging situations? One of the worst mistakes in reasoning (+R) is mis-generalization, see mis-Logic, which consists in deducing that we are wholly negative because we have made one or more mistakes so we attack ourselves instead of attacking them. One, some, many are not all. If we do not trust and rely on ourselves, who will? In a competitive world, self-confidence and self-reliance must be at the basis of our actions and thinking but they do not come from the sky like manna. If you have undergone authoritarian upbringing and education, you have to rebuild your will. Pay attention not to charge it with too much force, anger and wish or else you get authoritarian ,too. This is a very bad mistake. It has made me waste a lot of time and energy: time to build my ego, by defeating fear and anguish, and time to win anger. Hardly anybody is condemned or destined. Even those who are stricken by heavy handicaps can improve their condition. We can do nothing only when a tile breaks our head. Life is a mysterious adventure. Let us enjoy it. What shall we be in a million years? From this perspective everything is seen differently and our problems become relative. Teachers and parents as well as cultures should free and not block\ ill-direct us but we cannot choose them. Therefore, when we reach the “age of reason”, we have to run our lives by choosing the right paths, called liberation in some Eastern cultures, based on getting the abilities to modulate force, will and inhibition in relation to the nature of things\events. Will and wish cannot direct our behaviours because they compel us to forget the nature of that which lies before us. Our ego becomes a dictator or a small god i.e. it inflates itself or feels an impotent puppet. Asceticism in western countries has always been an escape from normal life into isolated places. This asceticism can be a form of escapism. As an alternative, we have to insert it into our daily life by devoting part of the day to it i.e.to our liberation or to reduce the burden of compulsions, whatever our occupations are. We should aim at achieving a series of harmonies: body& mind, individual & societies, individual and nature, contingency & eternity etc. Achievements depend on understanding the nature of things and events, productive methods, deep motivation, good cultures, intelligent tutors (but if we haven’t had any, we must learn by ourselves) and appropriate models. Living without anguish and anger is possible. It is up to us in most cases. My methodology, so far, has allowed me to solve most of my problems due to the wrong experiences of my childhood and of later periods. Every day I train myself to free my life (mind and body and their effective relationships with nature and societies) and so I can give you the right method and explanations to know yourself and, above all, to change yourself. All this adventure\enterprise has been taking place for more than thirty years. All that I have written has been experienced, understood and experimented\practised on myself. No miracle! So much work, method and discipline and some luck (reminiscence of the Mediterranean cultures!). There are so many theories on the field of psychology that getting lost in its labyrinths is easy. Up until now, we have been proposed generic words and concepts like unconscious, fear, compensation, ego, primitive part of the mind, the depth of our inner part etc. or absurd phrases like anal or oral stages, which might have had some usefulness at the beginning of psychology. If it had started from Pavlov, it would have kept a link with biology, medicine etc. This split has been added to the one between mind and body, science and culture so the two fields have undergone useless limitations like two tribes that live in two fortified camps but do not communicate and often hate\fight each other. My intention is to give you understandable concepts and practical techniques in order to help you to change your character and life. Knowledge should be the sister to action. After this a little generic “sermon”, here is the presentation of the work. This is not a literary work, even though you will find some traces, but a useful handbook that will span various disciplines, aiming at giving you the best explanations and methods to help you to live as well as possible. Other pages will be added. -->