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Freemance
Freemance --- A relationship arrangement whereby individuals choose to be in each others lives in a romantic capacity, but also choose to remain single. This arrangement allows for maximum freedom of individuals, while allowing a space for deeper intimacy or love to be explored (beyond just friends with benefits).

A Freemance my be entered into when romantic feelings develop between singles, in order that those feelings may be experienced and discussed, without the need or expectation of escalating the relationship to couple status. Emotional stability in this arrangement is derived from the understanding that both parties (or multiple parties - in the case of polyamory) are committed to staying single (Either permanently or for a time frame - e.g. until children are raised, studies are completed , or simply when those involved reach a different emotional space etc.) and therefore are able to be relied upon in a romantic sense, without the worry of either looking for or entering into another committed relationship. - "Look we do have strong feelings for each other, but we choose to remain single . Neither of us wants commitment with anyone. That leaves us free to just be around, and be what we want. I love what we have, Its cool" ... "What if he runs off with someone else" ... "That`s the point. No one is running off with anyone. No one wants that"

Freemance relationships do tend to be sexually free and open (However they can be mono or polyeros -sexual partners- as well Mono or polyamorous -romantic partners-) depending on the arrangement. Some in Freemantic arrangements enjoy finding others to 'hook up' with together, as a way of helping them bond. Although usually free and open, it is not uncommon for Freemantic individuals to create 'Just us time'. Be that as simple as agreeing to go out on the town then going home together that night, making time just to cuddle or weekends away and holidays together. Of course, each is also free to explore the world by them selves or with others. While freedom is at the heart of the Freemance, so too is deeper affection and often love. Therefore, many individuals in Freemances frequently take each others needs, feelings and wishes into consideration when making decisions that will have an impact on their arrangement together. As a Freemance is more than just a friends with benefits, individuals may also be there for each other in various capacities, as much each party is comfortable with.

A Freemance is a way for individuals to experience deeper intimacy than the usual casual arrangements allow. Who are (amongst other things) Free Spirits, have commitment issues ,are single and travelling, or who`s lives for what ever reason, do not need the complexity of a committed relationship for the foreseeable future, but who still have a desire for intimacy, bonding and or love. Most individuals in Freemances choose to keep their monetary and domestic situations separate. However this may not always be the case (e.g. Friends with benefits who flat together and develop deeper feelings for each other, but who both wish to remain single, may use this arrangement, intending not destroy what has been a good thing, or hurting each other with emotional games . Individuals in a Freemance may choose to disclose this fact to friends and family, in order to clarify what is happening in there lives, and let others know what to expect from the situation. Or they may choose to keep this aspect of their relationship between themselves, as a space for their experiences to exist, be explored and talked about privately and safely, without outside influences getting involved.

Where used privately, 'Freemance' is a useful term for parties to calrify a socially grey area of bonding, romantic and or sexual exploration between themselves, and explore it on their own terms. E.g. (In the case of a Bromance that has become in some way physical, e.g. cuddling, bro jobs or sexually intimate, and has then moved beyond 'just bro bonding' into a deeper form of love, but does not want to destroy the very nature of it`s chemistry by becoming a relationship). - "Yeah, I feel like you man, I`m happy for people to think this is a Bromance or whatever, but this Freemance thing is just between us. We don`t need others telling us what this is and what it isn`t . It doesn't change who and what we are. We know what we have and that's all that matters".

The term Feemance is also relationship status clarifier ... "Are you single"? - "Yep, but I do have a long term Freemance happening"    or, "Are you looking for a relationship"? - "Well I don`t know if I`d go that far, but a Freemance might be nice". or, "Hay, those two look close. Are they together"? - "Nope! But they do have a big old Freemance going on" - "Oh I see, good for them !"

The ideal standard for ending a Freemantic arrangement is a calm and open discussion that respects each others feelings and situations, and if possible, follows the relationship camping ground rules (try to leave them better than you found them) and deciding where to go from there, (maybe remain friends etc.) as this style of relationship is all about allowing individuals with similar needs for freedom, low drama and possibly discretion, experience life, love, intimacy and bonding more fully and deeply. Not about emotional game playing.