User:Merope/Sandbox/Two (Enneagram)

Two is one of the nine personality types of the Enneagram, and is sometimes called the Helper, the Giver, or the Caretaker. The Two type is defined by his basic desire of wanting to be loved and his fear of

Childhood
Four things Twos come to believe in childhood: 1) Others' needs come before their own. 2) In order to get, they must give. 3) They must earn love. 4) Acknowledging their own needs is selfish. Twos learn to get love by being nurturing and giving attention to everyone else. To do this, Twos must repress their own feelings. Subconsciously, Twos try to fix in others what they need to fix in themselves.

Healthy
These people could also be called "Good Samaritans" because they are willing to do thankless tasks that others avoid. They are often teachers, in the healing professions, the ministry, and work with the poor, the handicapped, or the mentally challenged.

Average
Average 2w1s struggle with their "selfish" feelings, and are dutiful, proper, and perfectionistic. They are restrained emotionally and dislike drawing attention to themselves, but they still want to feel important in other people's lives.

Unhealthy
These people become very hard on themselves and neglect their health by denying their personal needs and trying to be a martyr.

Examples of 2w1s
Examples include Mother Teresa, Eleanor Roosevelt, Desmond Tutu, Danny Thomas, Ann Landers, Barbara Bush, Lewis Carroll, Florence Nightingale, and Albert Schweitzer.

Healthy
2w3s are more extroverted. They want a personal connection with others and enjoy making others feel good. They love to share their talents with family and loved ones.

Average
2w3s are friendly, but their 3 wing makes them ambitious. They are often seductive, and this is the result of a combination between the Two's desire for love and the Three's desire for acceptance. These people are less self-critical than 2w1s.

Unhealthy
Unhealthy 2w3s are often conceited and overbearing.

Examples of 2w3s
Examples of 2w3s are Luciano Pavarotti, Sammy Davis, Jr., Sally Jesse Raphael, Arsenio Hall, Anne Meara, Jack Paar, Anne Jackson, Delta Burke, Merv Griffin, and John Denver.

Average
In the average range, this type is the most likely to ignore their instincts to take care of themselves and burn themselves out taking care of others. They subconsciously expect others to take care of their needs, but seldom ask for help directly. Helpers often feel like martyrs. They feel that they are entitled for support because of their services. They expect special privileges for their sacrifices, and they may overeat or overmedicate. They manipulate others to get their needs met.

Unhealthy
Food obsessions, hypochondria, and somatic disorders are common. Suppression of feelings can cause real health problems.

Average
Social Helpers want to be liked and approved of by everyone they know. They have a busy social calendar and hate to be overlooked. They try to be friends with the people who they see as successful. They try to impress people by disposing advice and namedropping. They cause frustration for people who care about them because they spread themselves too thin among a wide range of people while not paying much attention to anyone in particular. They may chase after anyone who gives a little approval.

Unhealthy
Unhealthy Social Helpers are patronizing and classic enablers.

Average
Sexual helpers want to be one person's best friend, as opposed to the Social Helper, who wants to be everyone's friend. They seduce by giving their significant others lots of attention; this can include sexual activity. They become increasingly pushy and demanding, and feel that they simply cannot get close enough to their partner. They try to keep their friends apart, so they do not discover one another and keep the Helper out of the relationship.

Unhealthy
Sexual Helpers become very jealous and will keep their significant others within contact range. They may stalk the one they're obsessed with and prey upon those who don't refuse them.

Issues Helpers Will Face in Their Lives

 * Pride, Flattery, and Self-Satisfaction
 * Looking for Terms of Endearment
 * Intimacy and Loss of Boundaries
 * Disguised Neediness
 * Becoming a Rescuer and Collecting Needy People
 * Possessiveness and Control
 * Health and "Suffering"

Self-Development
feelings. catch yourself. your intentions.
 * Don't be concerned about what everybody thinks. You can't please everyone.
 * Recognize that others are usually less effusive than you in expressing their
 * Develop good boundaries.
 * Be aware of when you are trying to flatter people and quit doing it when you
 * Work on your pride.
 * Learn to listen to your body and your heart, and be honest with yourself about

Other interesting facts
Basic Fear: Of being unworthy of being loved. Basic Desire: To be loved unconditionally. Temptation: To manipulate others in order to get positive responses Vice: Pride (specifically, Vainglory, the love of one's own goodness) Virtue: Altruism