User:Min-Fan1/sandbox

Traditional Chinese marriage is one of the essence of traditional Han culture, it is not only the union between husband and wife, but also the union between the two families of a man and a woman. Marriage and family are inextricably linked, which involves the interests of both families. There are many steps involved in bringing a man and a woman together, mostly arranged marriages decided by the parents, which also involve Marriage-prohibitions. Traditional Chinese marriage refers specifically to arranged marriages prior to the 1930s. The ancients attached great importance to marriage, believing that it was to serve their ancestors and reproduce the next generation.

Around the end of primitive society, traditional Chinese marriage rituals were formed, with deer skin betrothal in the Fuxi era, the appearance of the "meeting hall" during the Xia and Shang dynasties, and then in the Zhou dynasty, a complete set of marriage etiquette ("six rituals") gradually formed. The richness of this series of rituals proves the importance the ancients attached to marriage. In addition to the unique nature of the "three letters and six rituals", polygamy, remarriage and divorce in traditional Chinese marriage culture, d are also distinctive.

Introduction to Marriage
"Marriage"（婚礼） is described as "evening rites"（昏礼） in the Ritual Book of Dusk. The ancients were superstitious and would choose the auspicious day for a big wedding. The ancients believed that the twilight period was the most auspicious time of the day, so in the beginning, the ritual of marrying husband and wife was called "Evening Ritual"（昏礼). Because 昏 (pinyin: hūn）means "dusk, nightfall, twilight, dark". Over time, it gradually evolved into the "婚礼".

Traditional marriage rites
The full traditional wedding rituals are known as Three Letters and Six Etiquette (三书六礼). The marriage process of three letters and six etiquettes includes the documents and etiquette from marriage, engagement and so on. However, in different Dynasties of China, wedding etiquette are also different.

1.Three letters
"Three Books" consists of a "Request Letter", a" Gift Letter", and a" Wedding Letter". In ancient times, formal letters were so important that once accepted by both men and women, it was difficult to break the agreement.

1.Request Letter:  It also called "Letter of engagement". At naji纳吉 (when a man and woman enter into an engagement), the groom's family gives the bride's book to comfirm the marriage. Usually, this confirmation is sent by the groom's family.

2.Gift Letter: It is a document used at a grand ceremony that lists the items and quantity of the gift.

3.Wedding Letter: It is a document given by the man to the woman when the bride walks through the door(过门).

2. Six Etiquette
The wedding ceremony consisted of six basic procedures: making a proposal of marriage (nacai), requesting the bride’s name and date of birth(wenming), sending news of divination results and betrothal gifts (naji), sending wedding presents to the bride’s house (nazheng), requesting the date of the wedding (qingqi), and fetching in the bride in person (qinying).

1.Proposal (nacai纳采): When people get married, by the groom's familiy please matchmaker to find a good woman to propose. The groom's family should give about 30 kinds of auspicious gifts to the bride's family. The bride's familiy also asked the matchmaker about the man's situation at this time. The nacai is the beginning of the whole marriage process.

2. Bride's name and date of birth(wenming问名): the groom's family will request the bride's "Eight letters of birth time" (生辰八字) to check with the with the fortune master whether the men and women's “Eight letters of birth time" is matched. It means that the men and women can not bring faith to each other after marriage, so that the man's family can divine the marriage and decide whether the marriage will take place or not.

3.Betrothal gifts(naji纳吉): When the groom's family learned that there were no signs of incompatibility, they will let the matchmaker to send some initial gifts together by the gift letter to the bride's family，and then the marriage was tentatively agreed upon.

4. Wedding presents (nazhen纳征): It also named “guodali"（过大礼). One month to two weeks before the wedding, the groom's family will invite two or four female relatives to make an appointment with the matchmaker and bring the betrothal gifts, to the bride's family. At this point, the bride's family needs to send some gifts back to the groom's family.

5.The date of the wedding(qingqi请期): The groom's family chooses to marry the auspicious day(selected by the fortune master). The fortune master will choose some auspicious day which based on the groom's and the bride's birth time. When the groom's family chooses a auspicious day ,they will seek the woman's consent.

6. Wedding Day(qinying亲迎)：On the wedding day, the groom will go to the bride's home with the matchmaker, relatives and friends. Before the groom receives the bride from the bride's home by sedan chair，he needs to pays his respects in bride's ancestral temple. After the ceremony of worshiping heaven, earth and ancestors in the groom's home, he was sent to the bridal chamber with his wife.

1. Arranged marriage
In ancient times, marriage valued family harmony. The practice of Chinese marriage ceremonies is "an arrangement by parents’ orders and matchmaker's words."(父母之命媒妁之言). Parents and matchmakers would make decisions on their children's life arrangement, which was called "Arrangement by parents". Wealthy families would look for a bride of similar social status who could manage the family finances and, most importantly, produce sons to inherit the family's wealth. Poor families, on the other hand, will not be as demanding and will only look for a bride who is willing to work hard in the fields. And in gerneral，the husband and the wife were arranged to marry even though they had never seen each other until the wedding day, they can not refuse their marriage. No one could resist this kind of marriage because it had become a social norm in the feudal era. From this perspective, marriage in China before 1930s was not based on one's own will and choice, but it an arranged marriage.

3. Family interests and power
Marriage is closely related to family interests. A good example of this is the marriage of a princess in ancient times. Ancient kings often married off princesses to stabilize relations between countries and to stabilize their borders. It was a way to protect the interests of his country, the royal family, not to wage war.“intermarriage has continued throughout Chinese history as a means of establishing and maintaining relations among families in the private sphere, as well as a factor in political careers. " For example, "Marriage alliances, or ho-ch'in 和亲，literally 'harmonious kinship,' was something new in itss Han-era application. It was a part of a formal peace treaty arrangement at the interstate level, designed to pacify the powerful Hsiung-nu 匈奴 empire"

1.Characteristics of polygamy
The definiation of polygamy is a man is married to more than one spouse at the same time.

2.Comparative status of wife and concubine
In ancient China, concubinage was very common, and men who could afford it usually bought concubines and took them into their homes in addition to their wives. The standard Chinese term translated as "concubine" means "concubine: my and your servant (derogatory self-description)."

Most of the roles a concubine plays in a family are that of a man's sexual partner, needing to add to the man's offspring.

A concubine's status is very low compared to a regular wife. Even if the concubine was close to the man, the children she bore were only named bastardy, and their children had a lower social status than the children of the main wife. “concubine was always inferior to the wife, even if her relations with the husband were more intimate."

The wife is the female partner in an ongoing marriage relationship. The wife usually takes care of everything within the family, including the health of the family, the education of the children, and the needs of the parents.

The wife's rights in the family were great, and she assisted the man in managing the family business. The children born to the wife, called firstborn sons, had the right to inherit the family business.

She shared her husband’s class, whether he was a peasant, merchant, or official; accordingly, the clothes she could wear and the etiquette. she was expected to display depended on her husband’s background and achievements.