User:NikiMomMe

Hi - this is the inaugural page of NikiMomMe, and is being inauguragted rather hurriedly, as the Mom part of me is late in getting ready to jump onto the 210 West from Pasadena then south on the 405 and off on the Valley Vista off-ramp u-turn zip north a couple blocks on Sepulveda to my daughter's place for dinner and movie in Sherman Oaks. We've got so much LA bonding to do -- the kind that only the 55/23 year-olds can do over reality shows and swapping clothes and hearing about boyfriend woes...And then, after all the irrelevant NONSENSE...I must find that window of quiet space with my baby girl, where I grab her and set her down and get her to breathe...affect modulation, eye contact, focused breathing, back to the cradle, rock her, a little bit of attachment therapy never hurts to go back to the neural connections between us...she hates it and loves it. nurture, nurture, calms her, calms us both. our brains are still so damned connected. better than any pill, gotta say. then we both feel we have our SECURE BASE AGAIN.

nice when the parent child relationship is the SECURE BASE RELATIONSHIP.

OKAY, I KNOW...IT WOULD BE NICER IF I WERE HAPPILY MARRIED. but i ain't. I'm talking about neurobiology this evening. Not sex.

So, off I go to get that other kind of deep human connection. The kind that we adopted kids never thought was even possible before I had kids. --NikiMomMe (talk) 01:44, 10 September 2009 (UTC)NikiMomMe--NikiMomMe (talk) 01:44, 10 September 2009 (UTC)