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That's so glibertarian it's painful. I don't care for arguing about whether it's "feminist" or not to cheat, it's just about not being a self-centred schmuck. Taking a crappy behaviour traditionally associated with men, performing it and trying to rationalize that its somehow radical to be crap is sad. Dishonesty and entitlement are not virtues. It solves nothing and reinforces that heterosexual hegemony that relationships are, at heart, transactional and based on mutual self-interest. I wouldn't hang around waiting for someone to dump their current partner to be with me, nor would I not first leave my current partner if it wasn't working and I found someone else. It's not the sex, or whatever else the cheater gets up to behind the other's back. It's the lying and the deception. It is slightly better to be upfront and honest to a partner if you have cheated, but its better not to cheat in the first place, even if the relationship is in the shitter there is no real reason dive in the bowl.

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Darling, It may be easy for you to put it to sleep like this, because you didn't leave this relationship an emotional wreck. I am not blaming you for anything. I believe that you have problems you are in denial of, that those are what caused our relationship and the relationships you've had before to not work. I would rather believe that I loved a wonderful person with a personality disorder (NPD/BPD), than simplify it and say an immature girl with questionable moral integrity who manipulated, exploited and abused me for months. The more we are moving away from that, the more help I get from everyone around (including a shrink), the more evident it is to me what had been taking place. Ellie, please, reconsider your therapy and

with the sense of having been, had entered it as a confident person and left it as My questions remained unanswered and all I received from you were some conciliatory messages that are designed to calm me down but really don't explain that much. I would like to walk away with the sense that the time I spent with you was not wasted and Although everyone I talked to about this, including our common friends would use the latter to describe what took place and try to stop me from justifying you.

and make you unhappy in the long term. I think that maybe you should reconsider your therapy and chose something more suitable for

I am torn between my reason and understanding of what happened and my feelings for you. Because you are the second woman in my life to whom I declared love and the second one who said she loved me and it mattered to me maybe more than anything else in my life and it is not something I can just get out of my system by putting it to sleep. The previous time I loved someone, I loved her for years and that happened about 10 years ago. And I felt, I was ready for the same type of commitment with you.

You have been continuously accusing me of being angry and confrontational. I am not an angry person. Not in a pathological, uncontrollable and unhealthy way. Not beyond the norm of a healthy reaction to being treated unfairly or betrayed.

Become incredibly irritated about a most trival thing. For months you were projecting anger onto me and trying to make me believe that I have some serious emotional problems. You were systematically undermining my perception of reality and labeling of my own emotional states. I was being told that I say angry things when anger

It hurts me and it will always hurt me that the second woman I declared love to and and who declared love to me would simply use these words to gain things from me, continuously try to