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sucsessful marriage

One of the most crucial decisions we can make in life is choosing a spouse. If we can choose the right spouse for ourselves with reason and logic, we can say that we have the initial preparation to start a successful life together. Therefore, those who choose him only out of emotion and attention to the appearance of the other party, will most likely not have a successful life ahead of them. Among the basic criteria for choosing the right spouse are:
 * The morals and behavior of the other party that must be compatible with us.
 * The same way of thinking of the parties and the goals in front of them
 * Equality in every way (beliefs, economy, appearance, etc.)
 * Similarity of interests and tastes
 * And ...

A successful marriage does not end just before that and choosing the right spouse. Another important issue is how we behave after marriage. Even if we make the right choice, if we do not have the ability to manage our lives properly, we will face problems in our lives. Among the things that are necessary to achieve happiness in living together are:

- Honesty The most important foundation of a successful marriage is honesty. In order for a couple to have a successful life, they must be honest with their spouse and not hide anything from each other.

- the trust Being skeptical is one of the most dangerous behaviors in your life together. Every couple should trust each other.

- Having love and affection for your spouse and life Do not be afraid or ashamed to express your feelings and love to your spouse. Fill your life with love and affection for your spouse and your life.

- Perform all tasks efficiently Both men and women must perform all their duties. What are the duties they have towards their spouse (meeting each other's needs including emotional, sexual, financial, etc.) and what are the duties of managing life (man working outside and woman working at home).

- Having enough patience and endurance throughout life Patience is essential in life. Life is full of many ups and downs that you have to have enough patience to endure.

- Having infinite forgiveness in life You should ignore most of your spouse's mistakes and not ruin your life for any trivial reason. Make time for your home and family In addition to working outside, a man should make time for his family and not just pay attention to their finances. All human beings, especially women, have more basic needs than financing. Most women prefer a life full of love that has financial problems to a life without interest and prosperity.

- sacrifice If couples in life alone pay attention to themselves and their needs, they can not experience a good life. Paying attention to the above and hundreds of other things is necessary for achieving success in marriage and cohabitation. In this age of lies and deception, it is not possible to simply make decisions in the past and easily choose your partner. Therefore, we should not make the most important decision of our lives alone and based on emotions. We should not forget to consult with our family. Each of their tips can help us make the right decision. In this case, even if, God forbid, we encounter a problem after marriage, we will not be alone and we can still count on their help. Another point is that we must use all available facilities to achieve the right decision and evaluate all aspects. One of the solutions that can be used is to consult a premarital counselor. During one or two sessions, the counselor evaluates each couple morally and behaviorally, and by comparing the results, determines the agreement or misunderstanding of the parties, and if the two have no understanding with each other, they will stop the marriage, but if If there are small differences, it offers useful solutions to resolve them. Eventually, with the counselor's approval, the confidence that we can have a successful marriage is formed in our hearts, and we confidently carry out our decision and begin our lives with peace of mind.