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Peter Michaelson's user page. I'm a psychotherapist and author living in Plymouth, MI, and have been using an in-depth method of psychotherapy since 1985. This method was developed by Edmund Bergler M.D.(1899-1962). My five books are all based on Bergler's findings about the unconscious mind. I also write political commentary at www.BuzzFlash.com and www.OpEdNews.com. I can be reached at questforself@yahoo.com. www.QuestForSelf.com.

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The idea that we are psychologically attached to negative emotions was developed by the brilliant psychoanalyst Edmund Bergler. He gave us a comprehensive framework for understanding our emotions and for learning to regulate them. Bergler wrote twenty-four psychology books and 273 published articles.(Many of his titles are in print and available from International Universities Press in Madison, CT.)

Bergler, an Austrian Jew who fled the Nazis in 1938, challenged the notion that we are simply the product of what is done to us in childhood. He said that, as children, we form subjective interpretations that, interwoven with the reality of how we were treated and conditioned, grow into fixed negative messages and expectations about ourselves, others, and the world.

Bergler said we have an unconscious willingness to experience or indulge in our unresolved childhood conflicts. These negative emotions include feeling deprived, refused, controlled, criticized, disappointed, rejected, betrayed, and abandoned. According to Bergler, we look for, set up, and feed off of the negative dramas in our lives. It can be said that we have emotional attachments to unresolved negative feelings. Unconsciously, we can be very reluctant to break free of this inner negativity. In other words, not only do we refuse at an unconscious level to let go of our negativity, we secretly look for ways to experience it.

His theories help us understand contemporary society, for they explain the roots of our self-defeating entanglement with passivity, victimization, helplessness, paranoia, violence, and even terrorism. He contended that unconsciously we are perceiving and interpreting reality from the infantile, emotional, or child-part of ourselves. To put it another way, we have an inner compulsion to continue to experience unresolved feelings such as deprivation, domination, control, rejection, betrayal, and abandonment.

According to Bergler, our defense system is designed to cover up our collusion in this hidden negativity (or our indulgence in it). For instance, we often blame others for our negative feelings, and become angry and hateful toward them, when in fact the negativity we feel belongs to us. (Bergler's clinical term for this condition was psychic masochism.) When we understand our emotional attachment to this negativity, we can begin to eliminate it.

Bergler was aware of the enormous resistance to his ideas and understood that we are determined emotionally, through our defenses, not to disturb the psychic status quo. He once said his books were time-bombs that would go off in 100 years. Perhaps now, faced in these critical times with the need to break out of our personal and national malaise, we can speed up the timetable.

It is an axiom of history and philosophy that the greater the truth, the more we resist it. Humanity took centuries to accept that the earth was round, that it was not the center of the universe. Bergler's theory also threatens our notions of who and what we are, for it asks that we open our minds to the possibility that an unconscious part of ourselves orchestrates an agenda of emotional suffering and self-defeat.

Because we remain so strongly in denial and project our inner conflicts onto others, we resist the notion that a secret program beneath our conscious awareness holds such a dominant position and manifests such a malignant nature.

Freedom from this emotional tyranny is experienced when we begin to understand the extent to which we maintain unconscious infantile interpretations and realize how these feelings and beliefs control our reactions and behaviors.

A good way to understand Bergler is to read my books, which are based on his profound understanding of psychology. My books provide a deep understanding of the critical factors required in order to choose health and wholeness over self-defeat and self-limitation. Such factors include:


 * an awareness of what constitutes self-sabotage and how it operates within our psyche;


 * an acknowledgment of the consequences and repercussions of our actions and behaviors on ourselves and on others;


 * an awareness of the unconscious perceptions and assumptions that generate our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors;


 * an understanding of our unconscious collusion in our problems and how we can shift permanently from a victim mindset to an understanding of co-creative participation in the experiences of our lives, thereby opening ourselves up to positive, creative possibilities;


 * techniques to help us shift from a self-centered insecure perspective from where everything has to do with us, to one of trust, self-acceptance, and compassion toward ourselves and others.