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An idiomatic expression:

While in a social setting with friends, one makes a suggestion to the group to engage in an activity as a group which may put one of the members in an awkward or unpleasant situation and therefore subject that person to peer pressure, it can be said that the person making the suggestion has "poured tea on the turkey" of the person displeased by the suggestion.

EXAMPLE: Four friends out at a restaurant for dinner. It is known that driver of the group needs to be home right after dinner. Upon leaving the restaurant, one person suggests they all go to the movies. Everyone in the group is eager to go to the movies, but the driver, having an obligation to be home after dinner, is put in the unpleasant position of having to be the reason the group cannot go to the movies. It would be appropriate and fitting for the friend who made the suggestion to say to the driver, "Sorry, I didn't mean to pour tea on your turkey. I forgot you had to be home right after dinner."