User:Tanzeela Shehzadi25/sandbox

How much a mother can suffer for her children?
Yes a mother, I'm not writing about a journalist, a teacher , or any other professional lady. I'm talking about a maid. She works in our house. I cannot mention her name mentioning her name can put her in trouble. I'm writing just to let people know how much a female suffers.

A Real Story:
A lady lives near our house. Her age is only 31. She has 4 kids three sons and a daughter. when she got married her husband had 4 kids with her deceased wife. She did not agree to marry but she was forced to. After her two kids, her husband got married again to the girl of her love. So she has a responsibility of 6 kids now. The story doesn't end here let me tell you more.

Let's talk about the future. I mean of the current time. Now her husband has 12 kids. Similarly, she has 4 kids and her other wife has 4 kids and 4 kids she had before. You must be thinking that if he married three times then what's the problem?

What's the problem?
When his husband got married for the third time he asked his wife to do whatever to raise your kids. He means that he is not going to take any responsibility. His elder three kids are living with their grandparents and one of his daughters lives with his second wife. so, her wife has to raise five kids. Whatever his husband earns he only spends his earning on his second wife and her kids.

What does she do to raise her kids?
She works as a maid in five houses so she could manage to fulfill her children's basic needs. She pays the school fee by herself. She doesn't only a house cleaner but also does her house chores including cooking, washing, and cleaning. In today's morning, she came to our house and said " Baji Machine 2 mahino se machine kharab hai kapry hath par dhoti hun to thak jati hun" translated (Sister My washing machine is damaged, not working so, I wash the clothes on hand and I get too tired). and I asked my husband to bring someone to repair the washing machine and he demanded money. But I don't have money to repair the machine I saved some money for my children's new dresses. And her these words brought tears to my eyes. So she asked her husband that she will wash the clothes on hand don't repair the machine.

she earns Pkr 12000/- in a month she is not qualified enough to apply for a good job. So, she has to work as a house helper.

My Analysis:
My analysis is not for every men in the society but for some ratio who are doing the same. A female is not allowed to speak in front of their parent before marriage in Asian Countries. They are not even allowed to tell what they want. They are always supposed to do what their parents want because this is what society demands. Some parent just marries their daughter to fulfill their responsibilities not even thinking that in which garbage they're throwing their daughters. And after that, everyday their daughter keeps burning in the blazing fire. And after parents and husband, there comes a so-called society that actually owes you. If I talk about myself yes I also live under society's pressure. Not even a single girl who lives on her own, all faces the same. My respect is to Asian Parents please give your daughter a space to share everything with you. Please listen to them and do what they wanted. Please before marrying them check whether the person you're choosing to marry her is worth it or not. Please don't let your daughter die at the hands of unscrupulous people. Please your daughter is not a puppet she has the right to live and enjoy. Please investigate before letting her marry. This is all.

And when female talks and speak up for their rights. They are called as feminists. Being a feminist is not a bad thing. If people call me a feminist then I can proudly say that I'm a feminist. Yes, I'm a Feminist. What is Feminism?

Feminism:
Feminism is a socio-political movement for the rights of females. This is a movement for the equality of females in every field. There were three waves in feminism history. The first wave was for the right to vote and property. The actual feminism wave started in the 1990s. where females demanded their rights. In the second wave, females demanded the right to equality and anti-discrimination.