User:Vinum Vine/Vietnamese etiquette

In Vietnamese culture, good etiquette is important. Normally, the Vietnamese parents are expected to teach their children etiquette when they were young. Children get reprimanded when they break important rules of the etiquette. Good etiquette goes along with having good manner. In fact, good manner and good etiquette goes hand in hand. Extra-ordinary display of good etiquette represent the "face" of the family, and show respectful relationship to one self and the surroundings.

The traditional Vietnamese etiquette are:

EXPRESSIONS

1) Children must clutch their hands together and bow with the head when visit another family, or when address to an older person.

2) Foul words depreciates the face of the family. One must learn to never associate themselves with bad words.

3) Women are expected to live up to four words. Cong (Working:  She must be hard working), Dung (Beauty:  She must be clean and neat), Ngon (Speech: She must speak gently, and fluently), Hanh (Virtues: She must possess virtues in actions, and thoughts).  She is the crutch and symbol of feminity of her home, and country.

RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN GENERATIONS

1) Children must respect the elders. The language display must contains "da", "thua", and "vang" (all terms of yes, infront of conversational speech).

2) Young people should not rebel against says of the elderly or their parents.

3) The father is the head of the house. Then, his first born will take care of all the business and family issues of the family later on.

TABLE MANNER

1) The elders must hold the chopsticks and eat first, before children can proceed.

2) It is barbaric to eat with one's own hands.

3) It is unacceptable to make sounds with the mouth during eating. It is also unacceptable to speak, while eating.

LOVE

1) Pureness in a woman is prized. Women are expected to live with their parents before marriage.

2) The man's job is to provide for his wife and family if he was to marry. When he was young, he must be well educated in all aspects of his life.

3) Divorce is a shame to the family and ultimately, its neighbor, and bloodline.