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Someone with the imposter syndrome would assume the identities of others not because they lack the ability of achievement but because they need to hide under the name to materialize the reality of the fantasy. This unusual behavior can be caused by the overfeeding of the mother to the child, being smother with lots of affection. Most impostors come from families in which there is a consistency of shared deception, cheating and lying. Imposters usually want to be treated according to what their ideal rather than to who they are as a person. It is said in the article that some of the imposters try to accomplish their parents non-achieved wishes. Imposters tend to feel much better/satisfied/successful when they assume the identity of others, they had not successfully gone through the process of self-identification. This scholar article also describes the difference between the imposter syndrome and the "what if" personality, in which it says that what if personality people fake that they are emotionally involved because they lack that capacity and that they adapt to any attitudes and reactions that are expected. Impostors tend to be more warm and seductive while what if tend to be more cold.

It was first thought that this impostor phenomenon was experienced by women. Men who have this syndrome tend to live with it and women are the ones who want to do something about this phenomenon. This book mainly focuses on women because women tend to be hold back from being successful when it comes to having the imposter syndrome. Young tends to describe people with imposter syndrome as just having low-self steem. Imposters are masters at coming up with statements to explain their success, some of them are:


 * I got lucky
 * I was at the right place at the right time
 * its because they like me
 * If I can do it, anyone can
 * they must let everyone in
 * I had connections
 * they felt sorry for me

People tend to feel disconnect with the achievements they had made for themselves. Being successful might lead to a drop out, it is called an overnight success.

A few tips on overcoming imposter syndrome are:


 * discussing feelings with a trusted mentor, sharing your feelings with someone who has your full trust can help you differentiate whats real and whats not.
 * pay attention too yourself, and beware whether your thoughts are empowering for dismissing. Choose a script be positive during times of self-doubt.
 * make a strength list, list your strenghts and ask other to contribute, use this list in times of self-doubt.
 * accept the reality that perfection is not realistic, we all make errors, no one is perfect we just got to trust the progress.
 * be comfortable when moving through fear, fears of challenges do not go away but it can be managed.