User:Yasirhkhan

For some, life is copious while for others life is an earnest reality. Every now and then you will read in newspaper about a certain person committing suicide but on the other page you will read stories where people have transcended themselves to greater heights despite all odds. I won’t call my life a success story rather it has always been changing patterns just like a kaleidoscope which changes patterns when shaken, however the colours which I see through my kaleidoscope of life are hopes, desires, flaws, emotions and mishaps.

I am Yasir Hayat Khan, a twenty nine year old male, working for Askari Bank Ltd., Pakistan since July 2008. Besides that I am also a non practicing lawyer. Mostly I am interested in writing and poetry and it’s the pivot around which my hobbies revolve. Other than writing my hobbies are watching sports, reading and listening to music. After getting my early education, I graduated in Law and Political Science then followed it up with Bachelor of Laws (LL. B) and Masters in Political Science from Peshawar University. Basically I am from Nowshera, which is situated about 40 kilometers to the West of Provincial Capital Peshawar, it’s a district of Khyber Pakhtoonkhwa Province. I dwell with my parents; all my three sisters are married. We live in a joint family system where my father is the titular head. Nowshera is a semi-urban town having a few pre-colonial buildings too.

I was born with a congenital condition called “Muscular Dystrophy (MD)”; it’s a neurological, genetic (without any family history in my case) progressive disease in which all muscles of the body deteriorate with the passage of time, until a stage comes when one has to be confined to a wheel chair. I was diagnosed with “Duchaine Type Muscular Dystrophy (DMD)” in 1986 through a Biopsy conducted on my left leg. It was a big shock for my parents as they perfectly knew the consequences of having such a disease. My muscles also deteriorated with the passage of time and I became wheel chair bound when sixteen. Accepting that I can no longer walk was the most difficult hurdle that I had to overcome, and it took me a long time to swallow the bitter reality. My parents must have gone through a dolorous phase as I perfectly remember the tear that was floating in my father’s eye when he helped me sit in the wheel chair for the very first time. More than anything it was the mourning of losing my ability to walk which keeps me pensively hooked. I remember walking and running around with other kids that I enjoyed to some extent in my childhood but now I walk in reverie.

Now I had to recuperate and adapt myself to the changed circumstances, to quell down my pessimism and find someone inside who could effuse the confidence to live on and I had to bring my self out of the forlornly shell that surrounded me in late teen age. It was Maria Robinson’s quote that stirred me on, brought me out of despondency and gave me a new push in life. She said,” Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” That was the new beginning when I started getting my confidence back; here I would also pay homage to our college Principal Sir. Baqi Siddique who brought back that missing confidence in me, he created ramps in the college building, gave me the most easily accessible class room and place for my wheel chair and above all he gave me the courage to face the world, to dig out the abilities which I possessed and to look beyond my disability.

More than anything it was the change in attitude towards my disability that purged my outlook. John N. Mitchell said that “Our attitude toward life determines life’s attitude towards us” and certainly I wanted to conquer life rather than life dictating its terms on me. I am quoting Charles R. Swindoll, who said “Attitude to me is more important than facts… The remarkable thing is we have a choice… We cannot change our past… we cannot change the inevitable. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it.” My life started changing like my attitude, it became my credence that God has created us and he gives burdens to those who have the power to carry it, may be because of their bravery or because of their strength. He chose me to carry the burden of disability, may be because I am stronger, brave or has got many more abilities. It’s the ability that counts. For every ability that is missed, you gain many more. It is just a matter of finding them and believing in them.

After realizing my abilities, I started excelling in my studies. I did my graduation with refulgent colours, completed my LL. B by toping all the three years at university and did my Masters with utmost of ease. But that was not all, I wanted more. I found greatest effervescence in doing what people said you can not do. They said you can not go to university; I did, they said you can not do LL. B; I did, they said you can not face the world; I did, they said your disability won’t let you achieve success; I did. It’s not what the world perceives, its you who has to prove the world wrong. Difficulties will come as its part of life, look at an oak tree that grows in strong winds or look at diamonds that are created under tons of rock; one must remain steadfast to his goals and enjoy the pleasure of success when it comes.

The most important thing I have learned is to be optimistic. Optimism is very important while nurturing a disability because God showed me a new way, every time I was stopped by a road block. When one door closes, a better one opens. One has to use his brain in a positive way, it is our mind that can cripple us or energize. Don’t ever despair. Many successes may come from seeming failures. In my case failures have taught me far better than success ever could. Michael Korda in his book How to Achieve Success has said that, “You have to want to get it, and you have to realize that if others can, so can you.” People have achieved much more in much worst condition. I have learned never to quit, as long as there’s hope the world is in our hands but if we lose hope then we are left stranded alone and no one cares. It’s us who chose our destiny. I know walking again is next to impossible for me but I can always hope as hoping isn’t impossible.

My latest opportunity has come with Askari Bank who have hired me at their Nowshera Branch. I am really happy to be there working with a very cooperative staff who always help me in whatever form they can give. And I am in turn working with all me heart and hard work. So my fellows don't ever waste any opportunity that comes your way because there may not be any second chance.

As I said in the prologue, I have seen my life through a kaleidoscope. The images are composed of hopes, desires, emotions, flaws and mishaps. These feelings can be construed in words like flaws of my body, mishap of my disability, hopers of a better tomorrow, desires of being able to earn for my self and to be a source of pride to my parents, siblings and loved ones, emotions of joy and despair, of love and hate, of frustration and anger, and of desperation. Despite all this I have remained focused and trying to create my own images. The journey is still on and a long road ahead. I will reach destiny with the light of hope showing me the way.

In the journey of life never despair, Let hope be the light, courage your measure, Envisage you goal and never give in, Destiny is not far, stride with a grin.