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SOCIAL DISTANCING EFFECTS

Distance is the biggest fear of losing someone.The strain that coronavirus is putting on our lives is immense.Even healthy relationships are feeling the impact of SOCIAL DISTANCING. It makes a perfect sense to be struggling in your relationships now. -misunderstandings are creating; -fights are increasing; -spending more time on netflix and ignoring the call; -not making a good morning call as you get up at different timing; -noticing unnecessary things & creating negative thoughts; -talking in an irritating voice because you are chucked up by your personal things

So lets just focus on the things happening in the relationship & sought them out. THINK UPON IT,until we post the next writing on how to deal with it. WRITTEN BY- LOVEBUGS🐛♥️


 * 1) == LOCKDOWN | LOVE | TROUBLES  ==
 * 1) == LOCKDOWN | LOVE | TROUBLES  ==

I hope you remember the last post which talked about effect on relationship due to social distancing & we had promised that we would come up with a post on how to deal with with  it. Everyone is tensed due to this lockdown,we all have personal issues;but try & think that it is also the time to peep into your relation and correct things. -try & understand what your partner is going through in this lockdown -try not to fight,rather than solve the problem on call -understand the fact that entertainment is important but not at the cost of spoiling your partner's mood.

This lockdown should be made beautiful and you should stand with your partner. So just try and build up good things. "Never leave a person who puts all the efforts to keep u happy"

Written by- lovebugs..

#4    WANT TO OVERCOME LOCKDOWN LOVE PROBLEMS

So today's post is a brief about how to prevent troubles in a relationship during lockdown. -A good mrng call would make a difference in ur partner's day,understand that! -Random calls in between of the day would do great..seeing your name of call would make him forget evythng else -Sitting idol & thinking of possibilities & creating negative thoughts about ur partner would only make fights arise,so dont do that.Other than this,you cna simply ask questions about that situation,have a conversation and sought. -One video call in a day makes you know more about your patner bcoz face expressions do express a lot of things,so do it. There are more things that u can do to make your social distancing effects vanish.Wait for the next post..!! to be continued....

Written by : lovebugs..

 #5    WANT TO OVERCOME LOCKDOWN                  LOVE PROBLEMS

So a few more to add up in LOCKDOWN LOVE PROBLEMS -Talk about stuff like 'goals ahead' 'future plans' 'life after lockdown' 'managing things' etc,which makes the partner feel that you share evrythng with him & care that they should know things. -You are fedup of your own caged situation but dont let ur prtner feel so otherwise he/she will also get tensed. -Once or twice a week have lunch or dinner with ur partner on video call. -Spend atleast a little longer time on call before going to sleep,you as well as ur partner will feel relaxed & will have a good sleep.

This lockdowm should be made beautiful for your partner,so stop creating unnecessary problem & just try n create good things and enhance ur love.

Written by      Lovebugs

6 HOW WELL DO YOU KNOW YOUR PARTNER?

A successful relationship solely depends on the quality of friendship between partners and that requires knowing your partners likes,dislikes,needs,desires,beliefs,fear and life dreams and to me that’s the most important aspect of a relationship.Good communication between partners goes a long way in getting to know them well enough.The issues of lack of trust,excessive arguments and often times misunderstanding is always as a result of not been able to know your partner well enough .Getting to know your partner a lot of questions needs to be asked that’s the basis of a relationship. Whether the relationship is just a few months or a few years we all at one point think we know our partners pretty well. Sometimes, though,we know our partners better than they know themselves and other times we feel like we really know them, but on the surface we are only familiar with their day to day life. So ask questions and know each other.

Wriiten By- lovebugs🐛♥️


 * 1) 7.  ATTACHMENT STYLE

We all bond with those we love in different ways. Essentially, there are four attachment styles:.

Fearful Avoidant Do you often flip-flop between hot and cold, sometimes confused about how you feel towards your loved ones?

Anxious Preoccupied Do you find that your romantic partner or loved ones pull away frequently?

Dismissive Avoidant Do you find yourself fearing commitment and constantly craving space and freedom?

Secure Do you find you can effectively communicate and feel vulnerable in your relationships?

Its important to understand ur attachment style.So if you discover that you have an unhealthy attachment style, don’t fret. See it as an opportunity to learn more about yourself, grow, and improve your life with those you love.

WRITTRN by- lovebugs🐛♥️

WITHOUT SELF-LOVE
 * 1) 8.   LOVE IS IMPOSSIBLE

Why is it you love someone?

Whenever I come across couples who are struggling in a relationship I ask them that question. Usually they’ll say it’s because the other person makes them feel a certain way, or they like the same things and have so much in common.Happiness never comes from outside of us, it only comes from within.Unless you cultivate self-love before entering a relationship, everything will be off-center. Relationships only work if you control your side of the relationship, and the other controls theirs.From the beginning you should find someone who is compatible with your views and your values — emotionally, physically, economically, and spiritually.If you can’t love yourself, you will never truly believe that anyone else can love you – you will always feel unworthy.With enough Self-Love you are like a King or Queen, you enter a relationship as an equal to your beloved.

Written By- lovebugs🐛♥️


 * 1) 9. UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

Love can never be a means towards something else.True love has to be aimless and pointless to keep its beauty.When there’s a destination in mind, the journey loses its value. Love can have no conditions. When you enter a relationship be aware that your fulfillment can never be found in the other person, each person is responsible for their own happiness. If you do so you’ll unconsciously begin judging them, controlling them and demanding that they should be all the things you need them to be.You'll end up disappointed,the main feelings that destroy relationships. Fear is full of conditions.Our selfish demands n expectations make relationships worse So love yourself and by this u can unconditionally love your partner.

Written By- lovebugs🐛♥️

#10. A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP

At the beginning of a relationship, it’s all sunshine and rainbows. You get that butterflies in the stomach feeling all the time but as time progresses, things change and the same intensity of emotion is hard to maintain. It takes struggle and hardship to keep your relationship alive. Guys who are really serious about you and are in head over heels in love with you will mature into someone who will be enough for the both of you. Their immature boyish attitude will transform into one of a real man. On the other hand, guys who were never serious about you, to begin with, will never show these signs and they will leave you early on in the relationship. Wait for the pointers & keep reading..Have fun..

Written By- lovebugs🐛♥️


 * 1) 11   9 Relationship Rules Every              Couple Should Follow

Sometimes we think we get bound.But NO thts not true.If u do things with the heart and not by mind,you will youself feel good.These rules whn done with heart is what it means that your love stays forever -Nvr go more thn 5 or 6 days without seeing each other. -Nvr go to bed upset. -Talk every nite before gng to bed. -Don't complain to others,always go to each other first. -Have regular date nights. -One day in month,stay in bed all day. -Talk on the phone at random time. -Never stop texting. -Take time to go out with your friends.

Written By- lovebugs🐛♥️


 * 1) 12   THE FIVE LANGUAGES

Saying "I love you" Love. One of the simplest words to write, to spell and to pronounce. Yet it's the hardest to understand, most complicated and most intriguing thing on earth. We all need love, don't we? I need plenty of it and so far I am a very blessed girl who met a boy who truly loves her for who she is.

1.words of affirmation- IN ACTION-spoken words,written cards/letters IN COMMUNICATION-encouraging words,compliments,affirming spirits AVOID-undue criticism,harsh words/tones 2.quality time-        IN ACTION-taking trips,doing things together,going on walks,hanging out at home IN COMMUNICATION-quiet places,undivided attention,one-on-one communication AVOID-too much time in groups.isolation,gaps of time between meetings 3.gifts-               IN ACTION-giving gifts,commemorating special occasions,giving time IN COMMUNICATION-private giving of gifts,pleasant facial expressions AVOID-materialism,forgetting special events 4.acts of service-     IN ACTION-on going general acts if helpfulness,noticing and doing what needs to be done IN COMMUNICATION-"what can i do for you?","today i did..... for you.",making checklists AVOID-forgetting promises,over commitment,ignoring 5.physical touch-      IN ACTION -hugs.pats,sitting close,moving hand in hair,rubbing palm IN COMMUNICATION-pleasant facial expression.mostly non-verbal AVOID-neglects,physical abuse,threats

Hand in hand,heart to heart.we will stay together in love.Always

Written by- lovebugs..

13.  WHAT HAPPY COUPLES DO EVERY DAY

Our every schedule is planned.our relationship is a part of our life & couples tht tke cre of it every dy,their love remains strong. -they grow common interest & are eager to see each other 's growth in it -they share the same sense of humour & enjoy making each other burst out into laughter -they seldom have silent moments because they know silence reflects a lot of emotions -they may argue over trivial things but they know it's a way to enhance mutual understanding -they are never tried of expressing their love -they make big & small decisions together -they allow each other to have some personal time to do what they enjoy -they don't just chitchat but have deep talks to understand each other's thoughts more "I'LL CHOOSE YOU.AND I'LL CHOOSE YOU OVER AND OVER.WITHOUT PAUSE,WITHOUT DOUBT,IN A HEARTBEAT.I'LL KEEP CHOOSING YOU."

Wriiten by- lovebugs🐛♥️

14. 15 WAYS TO CALM A FIGHT

1. "please say that more gently"

2. "that felt like an insult"

3. Open your arms to invite your partner in to be held

4. "juz listen to me right now & try to understand"

5. "can you kiss me"

6. "can we take a break"

7. "let me try again"

8. "how can I make things better"

9. "I'm sorry.Plz forgive me"

10. "I agree with part of what you are saying"

11. Reach your hand out gently to touch theirs

12. "one thing I admire about you is.."

13. "we are getting off track"

14. "that's a good point"

15. "I love you"

Fights happen but thats not the bigger challenge,the bigger challenge is how you handle it.Fights make relationships stronger only when you handle with love and fight with love.

Written by- lovebugs🐛♥️

15.KNOW YOUR RELATIONSHIP

At some point in our lives, many of us choose to reflect upon and evaluate how our lives are going. We look at what’s working, what’s not, and any changes we may want to consider. To be honest, evaluating relationships is tough because they are never as perfect as we’d like them to be. If and when you choose to look at a particular relationship—a marriage, a romance, or even a close friendship — it is wise to begin by accepting the fact that no relationship is perfect. As such, you should focus less on your idealised version of a connection and more on whether the one you have met is connected emotional,spiritually and compatible enough. Essentially, you need to determine if the relationship adds to or detracts from your overall happiness and emotional well-being. If it seems that it at least mostly meets your needs and that your connection to the other person is, overall, a positive thing, then you can work on eliminating some of the negative elements that may be dragging the relationship down.

Written by- lovebugs🐛♥️

16. YOU SHOULD BE WITH SOMEONE WHO, ♥️feels honoured to have you & is proud to show you off to everyone ♥️cares abut ur well being & is emotionally available to support u,help u heal & take care of ur heart ♥️brings out the best in u.You are not a different person whn u r with thm,u r a better person ♥️adores u,not just the way u look but ur spirit & soul,who u r inside ♥️meets u halfway & wants to discuss & resolve issues with u ♥️is respectful,faithful & loyal to u,even whn u r not around ♥️who knows all the broken parts of u,ur struggles,difficulties & ur pain & still loves every bit ♥️LOVES YOU AND FEELS LIKE HOME♥️

Written by- lovebugs🐛♥️

17. BRING YOUR MAN EMOTIONALLY CLOSER

1.Open up to him. Your man has to feel comfortable confiding in you,they really need a place where they can be vulnerable. We all know that men are not like women in the way we talk at length about our problems and speak directly about our feelings, but they do need an outlet for their built-up stress and negative feelings.

2.Never fight dirty. If you want your man to hear your feelings, see your hurt, and understand your pain, speak to him like he is someone you hear, see, and understand. This will create an emotional connection with a man and will bring him emotionally close to you. He will realize that you are able to honour his person and his feelings, despite your own negative feelings. He will then start doing the same for you.

3.Show him you adore him. Some women are naturally open with their physical affection. They touch and caress their man (or everyone they know) lovingly, tenderly, warmly. These women are goddesses.It’s all about loving touches that soothe the man and invite him into the connection.

4.Remember to be playful. Being genuinely playful requires you to feel happy in your life; therefore, you need to start having a positive, loving relationship with yourself. You should dote on yourself. Take any opportunity to laugh, to have fun, and to relax.

Written by- lovebugs🐛♥️

18.    STOP DOING THESE THINGS IN            YOUR RELATIONSHIP

1. You don't appreciate him: Lack of appreciation is a relationship killer, more than anything else on this list. Why? Because after a while, the unappreciated partner feels like they don’t matter to the other person. Love turns into resentment and the relationship begins to crash and burn. 2. You're unappeasable: If you've heard a man say to you, "No matter what I do, you aren’t happy?", that's a cause for alarm. This one is so insidious because often, your partner may inadvertently internalise your general complaints and criticisms as his faults 3. You are bossy: There are times in a relationship when one partner is guilty of being bossy and ordering their partner around. What you need is healthy communication about your wants and needs. Sometimes, how you deliver the message is the main issue. Other times, it’s the negative energy behind the message 4. You nag: It sets up an uncomfortable situation where one person feels like they are nagged.Not only should you make an effort to stop nagging if you are prone to it, but if you are the one being nagged, it’s time to start looking at how you can help out, remember details and generally make your partner feel more taken care of. 5. You discount mutual friend time: A great relationship requires hobbies, outside interests, and strong friendships. If you are struggling to keep the spark alive, understand that both of you might just need time apart — the good kind. Maintaining your friendships and allowing your partner time to maintain theirs helps provide the air that any relationship needs to thrive.

Written by- lovebugs🐛♥️