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Problem's Regarding College Relationship's
Relationships aren’t always easy to maintain…college opens the door for all kinds of new relationship challenges such as roommate issues, casual dating, serious dating, friendships, and sex. You may also be confronted by interpersonal issues when you play on an intramural team, become involved in a student organization, or decide to join Greek life. These various relationships can provide a great deal of comfort and support during your college years, but they can also be a source of confusion and stress at times. How do you keep the lines of communication open so that you can maintain strong, honest, and respectful relationships? Review the qualities of healthy relationships below:

Communication--both people in the relationship need to feel free to express positive and negative feelings, complaints, and affection Active Listening Skills Handout

check out misunderstandings do not make assumptions about the other person's feelings or motives do not assume that the other person knows how YOU feel, talk directly with the other person about your needs Expectations--both people need to be on the same page about what they want from the relationship Basic Communication Skills Handout

agree on how much time together and how you will spend that time be aware of the other person's needs and interests Conflict--in all relationships, there are times when communication breaks down; healthy relationships are able to clear up conflicts and to emerge stronger as a result Managing Conflict, Dealing with Confrontation, & Diffusing Anger Handout

negotiate a time to talk about difficult topics use "I" statements to express your own feelings; avoid "you" statements don't overgeneralize; avoid using the terms "always" and "never" use respectful language and avoid name-calling listen without interruption focus on one problem at a time brainstorm a range of possible solutions be willing to compromise show appreciation for the other person's contributions admit when you are wrong Boundaries--both people need to be clear about what is okay/not okay in the relationship

Limit-Setting Skills Handout

clearly state any limits which you have for the relationship say no when you are asked to do something that makes you uncomfortable don't take responsibility for the other person's destructive behavior (e.g., alcohol abuse, eating disorder, suicidal gestures) set limits with the other person's behavior as needed using the steps described below Five steps to limit setting:

Choose to set limits. You will tolerate a difficult relationship situation just as long as you choose to tolerate it. To change the situation, you need to be the one to choose to set boundaries in place. Identify the source of your feelings. It often takes some real soul-searching on your part to figure out the source of your anger or resentment. Decide when, where, and how to set the limits. Think about the entire situation. Consider your time, emotions, and means. Remember that setting limits is about getting your needs met. Express the limits clearly. For example, you say to your friend, "I will loan you my car once per week for two hours." Stick to your limits. You are not responsible for making the other person obey the limits. You are only responsible for following the limits yourself and for reinforcing them.

Ambitious Boy Shubh Puri ( Shubhneet Puri ) Ambitious Boy (talk) 21:35, 27 August 2016 (UTC)