User talk:AnandAzad/Psycology/Confidence

Having confidence is like a boomerang: the more you project it, the more life’s opportunities come your way. Everyone wants to feel and look confident, but is there a way to acquire or build confidence to improve its benefits if you’re a bit lacking? Follow these key steps to building self-confidence, and watch opportunities come your way:

1) Get past the “superior” or “stuck-up” myth. Acting self-confident is not about being superior to others. It’s about feeling competent that you will meet life’s challenges successfully.

2) Understand that confidence comes from taking action and meeting challenges, refusing to always play it safe, and making decisions that put you—not others—in control of your life.

3) Accept that everyone lacks self-confidence sometimes, although they may be competent in many areas.

4) When you feel lacking in self-confidence, stop short of putting yourself down. If necessary, remind yourself of past personal accomplishments, times when you demonstrated confidence.

5) Like a garden, self-confidence is nurtured. Being willing to make decisions, overcome resistance to new challenges, learn from life’s experiences, and steer your life in a direction that matches your values will build self-confidence.

6) Think about which successes in your life have created the most excitement and enjoyment. These reflect your values. Consider using these values as guides for other decisions going forward, and your confidence may grow rapidly.