User talk:BJ Nye

I'd like to explain
Hi, BJ. I am assuming you are kin to Mrs. Nye. You have my deepest sympathy for your tragic loss. As a former resident of Kalamazoo, the absolute senselessness of that day shook me. I've prayed for your family and everyone in Kalamazoo repeatedly over the last year.

Please let me explain why I've reverted your change to Mrs. Nye's name. An encyclopedia is tertiary by definition. We do not report on subjects; we report on what has been written on subjects. And unfortunately, the sources available all refer to Mrs. Nye as Mary Lou.

I frankly do not think we should cover crimes immediately like we sometimes do. It's my feeling that we should hold off until after the event has played through. If we did that, your family could have made clear to the media what her name was. We'd have coverage of the victim impact statements from the sentencing phase of the trial and your family's wishes could be taken into consideration. My suggestion would be to hold off until that time on changing it here, and make sure in any contact you have with the media, you emphasize her correct name. If you can point me to a couple sources that use the name you're comfortable with, those can be used to support a change. I'll be glad to help. It's difficult, and yet another painful thing you have to face because some loon took your relative. I know I cannot begin to understand your pain. God bless you and your family. John from Idegon (talk) 07:30, 30 December 2016 (UTC)