User talk:Bishonen/Calm down

Long ago -- decades actually -- when I was training to become a high school (American secondary school) teacher, a presenter was a long time teacher or administrator in an urban school district. They related how the only time they had been physically attacked is when they messed up and told someone to calm down and further explained the telling someone to calm down is saying they're getting upset about something unimportant -- condescending, as you say.

I think confusion arises because calm down can be empathetically appropriate if and only if said to someone with one has an existing close personal relationship; it has a different connotation in that context. NE Ent 13:50, 24 August 2013 (UTC)