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Minimize the culture of polygamy By Akol Arop Akol

God created Adam and gave Him only one woman (Eve) which  is supposed to be followed but instead, the fellow men have too much desire for more women which is against God’s plans. If one man marries 44 wives, is he a second king David? Where will other young men get their wives from? Marriage is a blessed covenant but some couples take it as a contract which ends up anytime due to challenges they cannot withstand. No condition is permanent that means any hardship will end and the outcome would be fruitful. It is part of life to have some complications in marriage but don’t lose confidence in your partner because he or she does not give the best thing that you want. Your expectations will be fulfilled when you build a powerful relationship regardless of difficulties. Gossips and rumours will be thrown at your backs and if you are not faithful and peaceful, may break off with your pal. As a man, you can shape your woman to be responsible and adorable by loving her with all her weaknesses. Even if she becomes impassive or old, just make her fabulous and be contented with her. Give her the necessities she needs but never divorce her if she is not nourishing you. Though you might be tempted by pretty ladies outside there, just turn your eyes away and stop the slogan of saying, ‘’I must get that girl.’’ Do you know why women divorce? It is because some men grumble that their wives don’t cook, wash and clean. They embarrass their women every time. Women are silenced and overlooked by men dishonourably. How could a woman wake up and sleep with a sad face? When a woman is not fully loved and taken care of, she will not feel happy for the rest of her life. That is why they gossip about their husbands. Women need nothing much than good approaches and emotions given by soul-mates. Women always want to be recognised as special figures. Yes they are complicated creatures because they feel cheerful but soon thwarted due to jealousy especially when seeing their men chilling with strange females. A Man should not marry many wives if he cannot treat them equally. If he does he would not have enough time with each wife. It makes them develop jealousy and hatred among themselves. You cannot grow crops in different ten farms and successfully protect them from animals. So before bringing home many women, make sure you have resources and ability to control them. In order to live with your wife in harmony, treat her like a queen. Do not marry more women because when they produce many children, you will not feed and educate them all. Do not build up a big family and raise it up using someone’s or public’s resources. First look for a well-paying job but if you are working in public office, you will be questioned where your riches come from. Better have one wife and if you produce 10 kids with her, there is not compliant. As long as both (two of you) are together with the children, they will have strong foundation of peace, love and determination.