User talk:Caseyleehawes

hmmm. I AM NOT SURE THIS IS WORKING, BUT WE WILL FIND OUT. I WAS WATCHING DR.PHIL ABOUT PAYING CHILD SUPPORT FOR YEARS ON A CHILD YOU THOUGHT TO BE YOURS AND IT WASNT. THE CHILDS FEELINGS DO MATTER. IF YOUR NOT THE FATHER AND HAVE BONDED WITH THE CHILD AND RAISED THEM AS YOUR OWN, THEN YOU HAVE TO BE CAREFUL AT HOW YOU HANDLE THIS FRAGILE LIFE. EXPLAIN THAT YOU FOUND OUT AND WERE VERY UPSET AND HURT AND ANGRY NOT AT THEM, BUT AT THE ONE RESPONSIBLE. IN THIS CASE THE MOTHER. SHOULD MONEY BE WITHHELD?

BY LAW THE STEP FATHER (IF YOU WILL) HAS THE RIGHT TO DECIDE THIS. IF THE FATHER (STEP FATHER) HAS DECIDED TO REMAIN PART OF YOUR LIFE AND FINANCIALY HELP YOU OR GIVE YOU MONEY, THEN THIS IS GENEROUS AND SHOULD BE RESPECTED AND APPRICIATED. THE MOTHER HAS ALREADY BEEN GIVEN MUCH UNDESERVED SUPPORT AND MONEY, BUT THE (FATHER) STEP OR NOT HAS THE RIGHT TO DECIDE IF HE WANTS TO CONTINUE WITH THE FINANCIAL SUPPORT OF IT ALL.

REMEMBER SHE HAS BETRAYED THE FATHER AND BEEN A LIAR FOR A LONG TIME NOT JUST TO HIM, BUT ALSO TO THE CHILD. THE BEST QUESTION TO ASK IN ORDER TO FULLY UNDERSTAND HOW THE ONE IN THE OTHER SHOES WOULD FEEL IS TO PUT YOURSELF THERE, AND BE HONEST ENOUGH TO ASK YOURSELF HOW YOU WOULD FEEL IN THE SAME SITUATION.

ANGER AND HURT FEELINGS HAVE MANY RESPONSES. EACH BEING ANGRY AND HURT FOR THEIR OWN CIRCUMSTANCES. THINK OF THE OTHER PERSON. IN THIS CASE MAINLEY THE CHILD. IF THE BOND IS TRULY THERE THE MONEY SHOULDNT MATTER. ITS NOT MONEY THAT IS SUPPOSED TO BE THE BINDING FORCE. ITS LOVE!