User talk:Daniel Toro Ortiz

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Your edit to Unconditional positive regard
Hi Daniel, please notice that we are all volunteers here, and nobody is your administrative assistant. Why don't you make one minor edit, and then see how it is corrected by other editors, learn from the experience and then make the next edit, but this time a bit better?

I just reverted your text, put a bit back in and edited. Now learn! And please, put in the next bit. With friendly regards,  Lova Falk     talk   12:46, 29 December 2013 (UTC)

I just added the rest of your deleted text here (in case you don't know how to find it), so you can work with it:

History
The term unconditional positive regard was created by Stanley Standal, a student of Carl Rogers, but was made popular by his mentor. The term unconditional positive regard denotes nonjudgmental acceptance and support of a person's characters and conducts regardless of what that person does or says. Although, it doesn’t necessarily mean the actions or behaviors have approval. [2]

Rogers stated that humans have the inborn ability to change their thoughts, beliefs, and actions without altering the fundamentals of who they are. That to bring positive change and growth in their own lives, people must feel truly valued and worthwhile. [2]

The contrasting of unconditional positive regard would be conditional positive regard. This is where people are esteemed only when they live up to certain conditions given by other people. The presence of these "conditions of being worthy" can lead to feelings of worthlessness and failure when the conditions aren’t met. So the struggle to live up to these conditions of value can weaken or terminate both the ability and the desire to change. [2]

Carl Rogers and Client Centered Therapy: Client-centered therapy, also referred to as person-centered therapy, is a form of talk therapy that isn’t directive; and was developed by humanist psychologist Carl Rogers during the 1940s and 1950s. Today, it is one of the most widely used approaches in psychotherapy. [3]

"A 3rd condition is that the therapist practices a warm care for the client, a caring that isn’t possessive, which stresses no personal satisfaction. It is an atmosphere which simply demonstrates 'I care'; not 'I care for you if you behave thus and so.' Standal has termed this attitude 'unconditional positive regard,' since it has no conditions of worth attached to it."[2] –Carl Rogers

Rogers favored the term client over patient. He understood that the term patient inferred that the person was sick and looking a remedy from a therapist. Using the word client instead, Rogers stressed the position of an individual in seeking assistance, being in control of their destiny and overpowering their problems. Self-direction is an important part of client-centered therapy. [3]

Rogers thought that a therapeutic connection might lead to understandings and changes in a client. Rogers emphasized that the counsellor should keep a consistent non-directive form of help. He believed the therapist shouldn’t direct the client, but the client should be the one directing the conversation and remain in control. [3]

Related
Unconditional love - Agape is selfless, sacrificial, unconditional love, the highest of the four types of love in the Bible. This term finds its origins in the Greek language, synonyms of it are found in the bible, through the New Testament. [4]For the most part it describes the love Jesus Christ has for his Father and for his followers: “Whoever has my commands and keeps them is the one who loves me. The one who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love them and show myself to them.” (John 14:21, NIV)[4]

In marriage, unconditional positive regard can be a task hard to attain. Various marriage experts think that it is a fairy tale story to believe that a good marriage requires unconditional positive regard. [7]

"Another myth ...is: A good marriage is based on unconditional positive regard. ... People who endorse such unfortunate ideas (and they are far less rare than one might suppose) push their partners to the breaking point. They never find what they seek, for love and positive regard are reciprocal and conditional. Intimate relationships require the same courtesy, civility, and respect that we are apt to pay to total strangers." [5]- Arnold A. Lazarus [7]

"People also nurture our growth by being accepting—by offering us what Rogers called unconditional positive regard. This is an attitude of grace, an attitude that values us even knowing our ailing. It is a profound relief to drop our pretenses, confess our worst feelings, and discover that we are still accepted. In a good marriage, a close family, or an intimate friendship, we are free to be spontaneous without fearing the loss of others' esteem." [6] David G. Meyers [7]

Research Article
An article by Francis Gatongi explores the relationship that exists in the client-centered therapy between a student and a teacher where the students’ world is the main reason for being in the relationship. The student’s problems with relationships, emotional development, and ethical behavior seem to be at the root of most of the problems and distractions in school and society for that matter. [8]

If teachers approach a relationship with students by using the method of building a positive and trusting relationship, the teacher can establish himself/herself as a teacher who cares about the student’s well-being in and out of school. This may help build an atmosphere where a student’s self-esteem can flourish and might open up with any issues they are having. With this a safe and trusting environment client or student feels of value, which begins to build a helping relationship where growth and change can then occur.

The teacher or therapist shouldn’t just offer solutions or directions for the client to follow. The helper needs to use the relationship where the worth of a client is recognized and to lead to the issues which are of worry to be sorted out. Overall, the client is anticipated to hold the ability to come up with a solution to their problem, the helper only acts as an important companion in the healing process. [8]