User talk:El Haji Nero

Making The Best Out of Life

Life is really too short, so be happy for what you were given and make the best out of your life. I really try to make the best out of my life each and every day. Everyone goes through hardships, and I have learned about life through my own experiences. With every shortcoming, I believe there is a way to overcome those difficult times and learn how to change things for the future to have a better outcome.

I have learned to make the best out of each situation I am in. I have learned from situations and believe that having a positive attitude and learning from my mistakes really has helped me throughout my life. Things happen for a reason, and I have to take things as they come and be grateful for what I am given. I believe that no matter how bad a situation seems I can always overcome it with a smile on my face. I hope to always cherish the life I was given and smile because it’s not worth dwelling over every shortcoming life brings. I believe that life is truly too short, so I’m happy for what I’m given and I’ m making the best and most out of my life.

HOW TO MAKE THE MOST OF YOUR LIFE 1:Reflect upon yourself daily. Keep a journal and write down everyday what made you happy and what made you sad or mad or hurt or upset. Try to keep focused on what made you happy and how you can ensure that happiness everyday.

2 Look at the little things. People tend to think that big things like weddings and vacations are what personifies happiness. But what about your morning cup of coffee? A good night kiss from your child? Find the little things, things that can happen daily and enjoy them.

3:Become engaged in whatever you are doing. Ever had a workday that flew by because you were so engrossed in your work and you were actually enjoying it? It happens. Focus on what makes that happen and make it happen daily. Engage yourself in everything you do and things will be more pleasant and enjoyable overall.

4:Find a sense of purpose. I don't mean find your purpose in life, because that could change daily. Find what you purpose is for that moment or that day or that part of the day. Knowing your purpose and why you're there doing what you're doing will not only make you generally more happy but it will engage you and make your life more meaningful at the same time.

Here are 8 things you can do to better your life:

1. GO OUTSIDE. I know, I know.. it sounds crazy. But seriously. Get off the couch, get outside. If you're feeling down, or upset, or you just need to clear your mind. Go outside. Walk for about 15 minutes. Breathe in the fresh air, and open your eyes. See how beautiful everything is. I promise you'll come back with a much clearer head. You might even have found the answer to the problems you were facing before.

2. Surround yourself ONLY with people who make you happy. Why would you waste a second not loving who you are? Do you ever leave a relative or a friends presence and feel an amazing amount of anxiety just disappear? If you do, you should NOT be spending time with this person. Be around people who encourage you, make you feel better, and most of all- be around people who genuinely WANT to be around you.

3. Laugh. As often as possible. People feed off of your energy. You're beautiful- why aren't you laughing and smiling? In the end, would you rather be remembered as the one who took everything too seriously, or the one who was able to make any situation bearable? Laugh at other peoples jokes, laugh at your own jokes. Laugh at your mistakes. Just laugh. Be happy.

4. Have a conversation with a child under the age of 8. They know more than you do. I promise you. Ask them questions you would ask one of your closest friends, like "what do you think love is?" and you will be amazed by some of the answers they will give you. At that age, they are free spirits. They haven't been influenced by any of the harsh realities of the world, and they have raw, real, non-biased opinions. Children are one of the most mysterious, beautiful things in the world.

5. Turn your phone off for 24 hours. "What do you mean, turn my phone off? Disconnect from the world for a whole day? Are you insane?" -No, I mean it. One of the most common stress factors in humans these days is the constant need for communication. This entire generation has instant access to just about everything. Its rare now-a-days to have a conversation with someone who isn't half way listening, half way glued to their phone. Shut it off. Do something interesting. Cook a meal, watch a movie. Stop worrying about whose trying to talk to you. They can wait. It works, I swear.

6. Meditate daily. Its so easy to get so caught up in every day life. We worry about how we look, how we act, what others are thinking- its easy to lose sight of how WE feel. Give yourself 5-20+ minutes a day to simply exist. Play calming music, sit or lay down, close your eyes, and just breathe. Don't think, don't worry, don't obsess, just. breathe. When you're done, carry on your day with the knowledge that no matter how stressed you get- you can always go back to that place of pure relaxation.

7. AND finally, learn from every mistake. I know its hard to picture, but see every mistake, every unfortunate event- see them as a blessing. This is the only way you will ever be able to positively LIVE your life. I'm a strong believer that everything happens for a reason, but I do know that finding the reason can be one of the hardest things in the entire world. But that doesn't mean you don't fight. Remember- you don't make mistakes more than once. One time is a mistake. Two times is a conscious decision. Don't turn your back on the obvious, and don't look for blame in others. Own up to your mistakes, and let them better you.

Please let me know what you think and let me know if this was helpful in anyway! I'd love to hear from all of you.