User talk:Mariaamorb

Did you listen to yourself?by: maria amor bacharpa/author

We people are haunted by our past experiences...some lived in the past..we can't never denied that fact.. We tend to ask questions like.. 1. Despite of my hard work, i'm still here at my present standard of life? or shall i say that, i'm still poor and helpless... 2. Why i cant understand life? 3. Why im so afraid to make decisions? or why im still in the safe zone? This 3 main questiones are the common reflections of common man, some questioned that and some didn't even try to ask that to themselve, or i may say..they never recognize these, for they are very contented about themselves. Lets first examine our belief system that composes in us, what i mean with this is during our infancy stage, mental programming beggin. What we see and hear to the persons that influences us, like our parents. There is really a big contributing factors to the pre-conditioning that started first by our parents and later to other influences in our environment. What is pre- conditioning? it is the factor that molded or composes our decisions and belief systems..like, your parents believe on ghost, and then you believe also in ghost without any reasons and questioning why you tend to believe on this thing. So this become a great factors that contributed to our success in life. The things we believe really matters. The first things that we need to do, based on the favorate authors of psychological books that i read and based on other research is, to write down your beliefs- the belief system that we believe in. Have you tried to examine all those things that you believe in? Try to write it down in a piece of paper and try to reflect on it if that will be benificial to you or not. Try to extract everything that puffs up in your mind.I already done these and it helps. change your mental programming- it never really actually came to an instance, but consistensy really helps. Be constant on replacing that old thoughts to new one. Practically, do change one belief at a time, and reflect on it one by one and change it..ohhh, maybe i'll give you some practical ideas to do this..Ex. Before i believe that life is full or problem and we need to survive it or we will die..But i already replaced that with..Life is a garden, we are the gardener and problems are the weeds, so who is in control? the gardener or the weeds? so, it gives me a good perspective about how i will solve my problem in a healthy way. Another addition to that idea is, i think now that life is challenging, thats why its enjoyable. Good and positive perspective, really makes a difference on your mental states and it also influences our behavior on dealing things. Be receptive to changes- a good friend Mr. John Soon my mentor often told me that, the receptive or open person always recieves blessings. How can you recieve things if your hands are closed, better open that and recieve more blessing. Listen to your self, evaluate, and be open with new ideas. Changes never happen if we are not open to accept new ideas that was being implanted to us. I remember the bible qoute that tells, fight the good fight of faith, press on toward the future, and the idea of Jesus that we have to cast all our burdens and fears to Him and he will give us rests. Letting go opens another opportunity.How can you find a new love if you are thinking about your bad experience of an old sweetheart? this is a universal idea. Press on toward the future- the continuation of letting go is to walk without looking back with the past experiences. Most people think that circumstances are similar, and they link those unrelated circumstances to the present one.Thats why its hard to let go because they are thinking that if they let go of the present situation they would have a hard time and they are thinking of failing. The best way that we should do is leave that bagggages and follow and plan your dreams and future with the trust and faith to God that he will deliver you from all of this, and of course..leave but plan ahead. And lastly, we should have continous Learning - yes! no changes will happen if we never learn. Learn from your mistakes.It is like a sailor sailing, we are the sailor, we have a boat which is our God and with our ability of learning and our goals and fate is our compass. Even if we never follow the route because of circumstances and problems that hinders us along the way, we have the compass and map and we have that boat. Read good books, learn from mistakes, and learn fron the experts: we have lots of bases in our society, they are the benchmark on how to become sucessful in life. Theres no invented idea about success, the formula that was being used is only one. Learn from the shortcuts, dont try to reinvent own way, or else you will get old finding and searching. Plan ahead- if we fail to plan, we plan to fail... Trust God- this is the spiritual idea, it's soathing and theres no other way...Trust in the Lord and lean not on your own understanding, we are not the author of everything. We manage but God is our president. Trust in him and lay down your burden to Him. more writing to be added soon, hope you enjoy this idea...