User talk:Monica nuno69

Bulling is a very big problem at schools across the country and in our communities. According to research 23% students have being bull and 20% of students have admitted to be bullies in grades 4 to 6. Bullying behavior has happen at all times, we all have done it in a certain point, but this is really when is happens in an out outgoing way. Bullying is a mistreatment or a way of putting down other students. Bulling has become a problem that leads to suicide, mental issues and many other problems that ruined people’s lives. This is not something that adults or teachers may notice it is going on. This issue may be hiding by the bully and the person being bullying because they may be ashamed, afraid or many other reasons. Parents need to get advice on what they can do from psychologist as well as teacher and principals. We can all work together and find a way to prevent it and stop it. Listed are some ways that are recommended by psychologist to stop bulling. First, we need to identify the problem and focus on targets, because 25% of the bullies are in jail or have criminal record by the time they 30. We need to help both sides of the situations the bully and the kid been bully around. When your kid is a Bully, you as the parent need to set rules for the child and do not allow excuses. Often children came home after a discussion or problem telling their parents that the other kid did something to them. What the parent needs to do is not to allow excuses and teach them how to face the consequences for the actions. Encourage them to take their responsibilities for what their role was into this situation. For example, encourage the sentences that start with “I did this” and “I did this, when he did this to me” instead of “he did this, and she did that.” This will soon teach them to encourage themselves taking personal responsibility for their actions by themselves. This will take you to identify the causes and know the reasons of the bullying and where did this came from. Know why your kids are victimizing others kids at school. I know that we all love our children and we all want them to make the right decisions, but they make bad decisions when mom or dad is not around. They must have learned it from somewhere, bullying is a learning behavior. Sometimes friends, neighbors, family members or because they observe how their parents use power to get something that they want. In some cases they do it to feel power to feel accepted and to work on their self esteem; they have self esteem issues too. When a child is misbehaving or bullying parents need to enforce consequences for their actions. Parents need to be the person who sets the control and rules at all times; for example, there are no bad words, or bullying allowed at this home and if they do, they have to face the consequences. They need to know what to expect if they break the rules, but also let them know what you want and show them or tell them the behavior that you expecting from them. When your kid is being bullied, talk to the child, teacher or counselor. Observe their behavior ask them questions why they don’t want to go school or feel uncomfortable. Often kids don’t want to tell that they are being bullied because they think you are going to punish them. If you go to the parent of the bully you are going to start bulling between parents, for that reason is recommend that the parent goes to the school principal or counselor. We cannot afford and stand back and said that is just part of growing up. We need to do a call of action to everyone to who is in charge of our kids and set the alarm that is not okay to bull; our kids are counting on us. Parent need to get advice on what they can do from psychologist as well as teachers and principals. We can all work together and find a way to prevent it and to stop it.