User talk:Nanokarthik

MASTURBATION Masturbation is PRODUCING SEXUAL PLEASURE TO ONESELF. Sexual urges normally develop in adolescence and the person becomes highly preoccuppied with it. The person also becomes highly sensitive to sexual feelings and stimulation. As a result, most people discover that stimulation to sexual organs is pleasurable, usually by accident, occasionally by learning from someone. When this is carried out further, ejaculation/orgasm occurs. Once experienced, the INTENSE PLEASURE from masturbation motivates the persons to continue it on a periodical basis.

While masturbation is NEAR-UNIVERSAL IN MEN, it is reported to be LESS COMMON IN WOMEN. Usually the habit peaks in the first few years following puberty, and then diminishes in frequency. It often disappears following marriage, though a person may occasionally use it afterwards too.

Masturbation is NOT A DISEASE NOR A HARMFUL PRACTICE. It is a NORMAL RESPONSE TO A PHYSIOLOGICAL NEED which develops in adolescence. Since sexual urges are maximal at adolescence, masturbation is also most common in that period of life. This is further facilitated by the fact that masturbation is the ONLY AVAILABLE SOURCE OF SEXUAL SATISFACTION at that stage of life.

Masturbation DOES NOT CAUSE ANY HARMFUL EFFECTS TO THE PERSON. Many diseases, from poor vision to appedicitis to mental disorder and impotence and infertility were atttributed to masturbation earlier. The general frowning of society towards sexual pleasure added to its condemnation. Generations of youth were threatened with dire consequences from masturbation and spent miserable years with fear and guilt. Research has clearly disproved these false fears and shown that masturbation is PHYSIOLOGICAL, not PATHOLOGICAL. It is a RESPONSE TO A PHYSIOLOGICAL NEED, just as eating is a response to another physiological need, i.e., hunger.

In fact, masturbation should be viewed as a HEALTHY RESPONSE inasmuch as it satisfies the underlying need and prevents the person from engaging in other sources of sexual pleasure like promiscuity, premarital sex and prostitution, which carry MEDICAL, PSYCHOLOGICAL AND SOCIAL HAZARDS. Also, research has shown that masturbation serves also as a REHEARSAL TO ADULT SEXUAL ACTIVITY. Thus, persons who practised regular masturbation have been found to have a BETTER ADULT SEXUAL LIFE than those who avoided it!

'The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.' So it is with masturbation. It is the FEAR ABOUT SOME HARM from masturbation which causes harm to the person. Anxiety, guilt, struggle over unavailing attempts to control masturbation, undue preoccupation with sex DUE TO AVOIDING MASTURBATION, and fear about "losing strength and developing impotence" cause untold harm and suffering to the person. The situation is comparable to teaching that eating food is harmful and telling the person to avoid it.

Another pernicious trick resorted to by those who still try to confuse youngsters is to say that "Okay, masturbation is alright, provided that you don't overdo it. Now, this "overdo" part is never specified, leaving the person always in tenterhooks whether his rate is excessive or not.  It must be noted that there is NO "TOO MUCH" in masturbation.   This is because there is a period of reduced desire following masturbation when the person is not attracted to it.  In males, the erectile function becomes refractory following ejaculation, making it physiologically not possible to go for continuous or "excessive" masturbation.

Inability to satisfy one's wife has no direct causative link to earlier masturbation. Even as an adult, if masturbation were possible, it indicates that the sexual functioning of the person is PHYSIOLOGICALLY NORMAL. If there are problems in joint sexual activity, it indicates a PSYCHOLOGICAL PROBLEM which interferes with normal sexual activity, though the sexual apparatus is capable of good functioning. Fears about "harmful effects of masturbation" as well as guilt are more than sufficient to imapair sexual functioning in marriage.

What is required is SEX EDUCATION at least from adolescence. In your case, there is additonal need for assessment by a PSYCHIATRIST who will be able to identify the cause(s) of your problem and advise remedies.