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Michael Howell English IV 8/22/06

Surviving the Bump

Many people don’t consider a divorce to be devastating, just a regular part or life. These days divorces have become so normal, many people don’t understand how life changing its effects can be. The only noticeable setback in my life was my parent’s divorce, which in the eyes of some may be miniscule, but it changed my life forever.

In my recently purchased house, on my recently purchased couch, in front of the new TV, I here my dad set down his new Lexus keys. My dad soon walks from the kitchen cabinet to my mom. Something felt different, I could almost since what was going on, but I refused to acknowledge my subconscious thoughts, and assumed that I was in trouble for some wrong doing I must have inevitably committed. My mom and dad walk into the den area and ask me to turn the TV off, something was definitely up. My dad’s eyes where moist; this was something much more than me getting in trouble. “Your mother and I would like to talk to you about something.” My subconscious couldn’t be suppressed and I knew what I was about to here next. “Your mother and I are going to get a DIVORCE.” The words hit me like a ton of bricks.

This sudden and drastic change quickly had its effects on my life. I soon became depressed, my feelings I tried to suppress, and I was in constant unrest. When in deep thought, which in those days was quite often, I would always think “Why me? Why me?” This question haunted me for the next few years. I hated the situation, and soon found myself hating my parents. I now had two homes, my dad’s apartment and the home we had been living in previously. My lifestyle changed and I was a mess. One decision made by my parents changed my whole life, and I never thought that it would ever be for the best.

Now that I'm almost eighteen and ready for the next few, huge steps in my life, I’ve realized that there was no other way my life could have played-out. My personal life is now balanced out, and life is much less stressful without the arguing that occurred before the divorce. I've grown up a little quicker and found that my maturity level had increased greatly (even though it might not show as much in your class…. Sorry!), and my family has doubled. My dad got remarried, my mom is in the process of being remarried and I find myself thankful for my situation as apposed to hateful. The end result brought me closer to Christ, and even closer to both my mom and my dad.

Some may say that all these changes were simply because I got older, and to some degree they are right, but I know this was meant to happen and I'm thankful that everything worked out the way it did. Yes I am a child of divorced parents and yes it was and still can be hard, but I know that this situation has only made me stronger and I thank God that everything worked out in the end. I survived the bump.