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The plague of dowry in Pakistan: A dowry is a transfer of parental property at the marriage of a daughter. It includes furniture, linen, money etc. Dowry contrasts with the related concept of bride price. It is the wealth transferred from the bride’s family to the groom or his family. Bride price or bride service is a payment by the groom or his family to the bride’s parents. Disputes related to dowry sometimes result in acts of violence against the women including killing and acid attacks. The concept of dowry was common in Europe until the 19th century and is still important in Islamic world. Pakistan adopted the dowry system from Indian culture. In recent years, there has been an increased in the value of dowries in Pakistan. The upper class of our society gives dowry according to their own status. They provide the things from basic needs to the things which come in luxuries including luxury cars, luxury bungalows. They show off to the people. The class of poor people they are being grinded in the competition of dowry. They did not marry their daughter. Dowry is a social evil which has affected our society very badly. It has caused too much destruction to the socio-economic structure. The dowry system has given birth too many evils. It will draw many girls to suicide to save their parents from economic drudgery. Dowry in Pakistan and India is very common. Dowry is something that is considered first and foremost in some families. Many films and dramas have even been made especially in India over this matter. A recent one particularly about dowry awareness with a sarcastic touch was Dawat- e-Ishq. Dowry is a social menace that is deeply rooted in Pakistani society. At many places, it is sent along with brides to secure her place and prestige at her husband’s house, while many people practice the custom of giving dowry out of ‘love’. Dowry in any form is a sign of disgracing women openly that they need to realize themselves. It is an act of evaluating the worth of a woman by simple commodities. Late marriages due to this plague: Dowry is an added burden which families willing take, without understanding how it contaminates the positive idea of marriage. Handing your daughter away – a girl you have raised and loved for years – should be more than enough of a factor than to bewilder yourself with materialistic needs Many marriages are held or withdrawn at the day of the wedding because somehow, the girl’s family is not able to meet the required list of items the groom’s family has asked. The upper class of our society gives dowry according to their status. They provide the things from basic needs to the things which come in luxuries including luxury cars, luxury bungalows. They show off to the people. The class of poor people they are being grinded in the competition of dowry. They did not marry their daughter. The men who are not even eligible to fulfil their own liabilities and hardly make both ends meet are frivolously in favour of demand for Dowry. Indirect Dowry after marriage is now a days quite ambivalent in our society. The process goes initially without demanding Dowry but later due to ineligibility of earning and greediness the men who cannot bear the basic expenses behest their wives to get the dowry by hook or crook and his parents encourage this as a right to be asked for. Seeing the pitiable condition the daughter’s parents adorn her with the stuff which is usually given in Dowry. This plague is not confined to the middle class but elite class has their own kind of demands according to their status and echelon. Psychological problems amongst unmarried girls: Does the groom’s family for once ponder to what stress the girl’s family has to go through just to have their daughter married? Dowry is a social evil which has affected our society very badly. It has caused too much destruction to the socio-economic structure. The dowry system has given birth too many evils. It will draw many girls to suicide to save their parents from economic drudgery. The system of dowry in our society is an act of discrimination against unmarried girls whose values are defined based on their respective dowries. The cases in Pakistan are high due to the concept of dowry. When the engagement is broken due to the dowry the girl begins to live in the society with a sense of insecurity develops an inferiority complex and remains emotionally suppressed. She feels herself to be a burden on her parents. So she commits suicide. She becomes depressed. Due to fewer dowries the in-laws tortured the girl, they abused, insults and passed the sarcastic remarks. Dissatisfaction with the amount of dowry may result in abuse of the bride. In extreme cases “dowry deaths” or the murder of the bride by her husband and his family take place. At parents’ house she is treated as a burden or liability and in the matrimonial home, the dowry she brings is more important than her person. This evil has produced adverse effects on women’s status in the matrimonial home, and is the main tool of exploitation against married women in the matrimonial home. The in-laws of the bride in an attempt to extract more and more dowry create an atmosphere of harassment and cruelty. Generally it is found that a wife coming to the matrimonial home without dowry is subjected to many humiliations. She as an individual has no utility unless she brings dowry. Totally unaffordable for poor people: In Islam, women are not the properties of their families and should not be traded like a material good. This is an insulting practice and a very unfortunate and deplorable act that we see being committed daily in our society. It has become a sick and ruthless yet acceptable practice for the family of the bridegroom to demand a certain amount of money (or other items of value) from the bride or her family, usually the bride's father, without which the marriage cannot take place. The curse of this deplorable practice is such that many women don’t get married because their families cannot meet the long list of demands by the bridegroom! Dr. Peter Davis, the researcher, says that “Some families face a ‘double whammy’, having to pay wedding expenses and dowry for their daughters at the same time in life when elderly relatives are needing more expensive medical care.” Islam does not stop a father from giving his daughter gifts, money or property, or arranging for a wedding feast but to make anything a demand and a way of exploitation of the bride’s father is nothing short of an immoral and corrupt act which must be condemned and discouraged by all sections of our society. Since parents are not able to arrange sufficient amount of money for dowry, they will allow their daughters and sisters to take up a job and earn some money to be utilized at the time of their marriage.” The girls are asked to leave their schooling and forced to work. As they do not have sufficient learning they will not be given white-collar jobs instead they will be given all kinds of works with less amount of salary. It is true that a social problem like dowry cannot act, as legal measures along cannot curb dowry problems. What is needed is a change of attitude of society towards girls and boys. They must be treated and be educated equally. Laws are also needed to be stringently implemented. The public voluntary organization and the society as a whole should have to rise against age old evil practice and make an effort to curb this menace.