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"On Fidelity"

What happened to living chaste or even in a committed relationship? From the womb to the tomb, we have read stories of the committed spouse who immerse his/her being into something he/she believes will be, as the stories put it, "forever in love." Such chaste way of living is now an obsolete thing and the results though satisfying can have lasting effects that ends in tragedy for some, for others a blessing. Yet, there is this one thing called love. This thing so powerful and strong, yet fragile to the very beings, who seek to possess it, bleeds profusely; giving birth to life and death, passion and pain. Still, the theories of natural selection, teaches, those who survive are the real warriors of love-, so bleed you will, if you lack understanding of what illusions on which you feed your heart.

Fidelity is a standard some people genuinely believe they can live up to, but to others it is myth-based-reality constructed on disingenuous acts. A make-believe impracticality founded on the ideal that the art of being faithful may just be fantasy for the hopeless romantic. The mere act of giving one’s word should be enough to shelter the harsh reality of what happens in the dark between two people should remain. But like the good book says, "What happens in the dark must come into the light," which, when leaked often fan flames of dishonesty spreading the virus of distrust and reek havocs in the "They live happily ever after" stories. When disposed condoms leave no trace of what happened and the secret known only to heart and mind of the cheater and the receiver, emotions ever so fragile surfaces like that stain on Monica Lewinsky’s dress.

Though, the Spitzer scandal supposedly rocked the halls of Albany. The drooling lips with eager taste from the masses to "off with his head" mentality is the only clamor that will be heard ringing above voices of reason. Even when the righteous Pharisees speak, dishonesty clouds the judge, jury and executioner leaving room for, what if it was me? The tone changes and the "To err is human theme floats like the condom you thought you flushed. To simply say that power corrupts is an understatement. For in the Halls of Justice, uniform wearing agents and cronies alike often manipulate the law to their own advantage. Yet, when caught in the spotlight, like a deer in the headlights, it makes you wonder if they’re representative risk takers who flaunt their boldness; wearing garments of both blessing and curse.

Power, it seems is a garment worn only by those who struggle with insecurity as children and subsequently obscure the vision of their roles in life and often led by their phalluses and a strong insatiable appetite to which they cannot say no. Some people say, faithfulness is a fond fantasy for the person who believes in true love. So why should we even get involved or married for that matter? Certainly, there is a question of free will vs. denial, but when your conscience sits at the court of your consciousness, what then happens to self-discipline? There is no mystery or secret that you will see someone that you are attracted to, its nature. But I’m of the belief that the art of self-restraint is missing and the consequences that come with cheating should out-weigh whether the act is worth risking. What are values are we teaching our children and are we simply too self-indulgent that we cannot exercise self-control? Anger like lust are emotions that requires the use of self-control, so why not, let us discipline ourselves before we catch something other than pleasure-, for which there is no cure!

Sabdale (talk) 19:28, 7 October 2008 (UTC)