User talk:Sdspeaker

I am deeply concerned about the way our family courts are allowing lies and manipulation to be used in the court to abuse the family. I want to discuss the process and gather information in hopes to start a petition to set a standard that will prevent this abuse from continuing to destroy more lives. I will start by explaining what I have experience first hand. I am in the process of getting a divorce and my marriage has been a challenge because of the selfish behavior that often the causes family issues. My wife and I have a 7 year old and my wife decided that she does not want to be with me anymore. She believes that we are incompatible so she went down to the court house and got an order of protection against me.She also listed our daughter as a protected person. She was given and O.P. against she just made up a story.I had no idea until her step dad told me that this is just the way it works this is the 1st step in the divorce process. I was told I needed a lawyer to be able to file for rights to see my child. I was unable to find a lawyer that was available for the court date that was stated on the paperwork so I had to get it reset for a later date this allowed my wife to keep me from speaking to our daughter for 51 days. When we finally went to court she just came in and made a statement. She brought no evidence no witnesses nothing she just made a statement. I brought multiple witnesses I could have filed the court room with witnesses to proved that what wrote down on the paperwork was a bunch of lies she was lying. in addition to that she got up on the witness stand and while under oath she denied any knowledge of a prior O.P. that she had back in 2005 that is in addition to what was listed on the paperwork she had filed against me. That means that the court documents prove that she is lying. The judge gave her custody and because of the O.P. I cannot have custody of our child. She gets everything and I get punished. I get to see my daughter every other weekend and on Tuesday. but I have to go from Tuesday to Tuesday with out seeing my daughter I agreed to pay in addition to the child support half of the daycare cost if I could talk to my daughter I bought her a phone and I pay a phone bill every month but I have had to go a minimum of 5 days and sometimes it has been 7 days strait without speaking with to my daughter on the weeks that her mothers has her on the weekends. I was real close to my daughter before this and the hard part is she knows the truth she was with me the day her mother made up the story that said she took her and fled she know that her mother went to the wine trail with her friends while she stay with me we went to the park and had a fun day. this hurt me but it also is hurting my daughter. Their is no honor in the court when the court denies truth. I want to put a petition together to get a standard set of guidelines that can be set to insure that lies don't take control in the game that is being played with the lives of our children in family court.