User talk:Skutterless love

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Sorry, but we're not a chat room here. Friday (talk) 19:51, 15 April 2008 (UTC)

Sorry, but Wikipedia is still not a chat room. Also, please understand, questions involving the sexual activities of potentially underage people are going to be a quite sensitive issue here. I strongly suggest you just drop this and take it to a more appropriate forum. And, to be perfectly frank, you are not quite convincing as a new editor. This leads me to believe you may be intentionally stirring up controversy more than you're earnestly seeking an answer. Friday (talk) 20:01, 15 April 2008 (UTC)
 * I'm very sorry for stirring up controversy, and I will ask my question somewhere else. I simply wanted some information regarding my situation because I find it difficult to talk to my parents and my friends about stuff like this. I assure you that where I live in the UK the age limit is 16 so I am not underage. I will ask my question on yahoo answers I just didn't want the hassle of making a yahoo account to ask one question when wikipedia account was quicker. Thank you for your patience. Skutterless love (talk) 20:10, 15 April 2008 (UTC)

Your Question
I saw it before it was deleted... not sure why it was deleted. There is nothing wrong the feelings you are having, and you should not worry about trying to be "normal" but instead figure out what is right and healthy for you as an individual. I know when you are younger you see things through the perspective of other kids around you, but eventually you realize you have to go after what you want. Remember the people who speak most of all about being normal may well be the biggest freaks of all behind closed doors. At your age it may hard to find the kind of girl you're looking for, because the girls are likewise trying to figure themselves out, so you have to be patient, take it one step at a time, and look for the basic qualities in a girl you find most attractive, instead of trying to jump right into a specific fetish. Build on that, and if you ever get to the point of approaching a dominant, you will be be able to articulate yourself much better to her.Hope that helps. Fritter (talk) 01:35, 16 April 2008 (UTC)


 * Hey, it looks like I forgot to answer you. :-(  I can't really say what will work best for you -- if you try waiting for just the right girl to come along, you may spend a long time alone, but if you begin dating "vanilla" girls and try to introduce them to bondage, you may have difficulties if they aren't compatible.  So it depends on how much risk/disappointment you are willing to stomach in pursuit of what you want.  Don't be pessimistic, just patient.  They ARE out there, if you can find them.  You can also look on personals sites like bondage.com or collarme if you can get access to them.


 * I can tell you a couple things I'm pretty sure of. One is that you don't want to come off as a one-dimensional character who's only into bondage and nothing else.  Women don't all like the same things in a guy, but in general they want to connect with you on other levels besides sex...they don't just want to be your fantasy.  The second thing is, don't top from the bottom -- that is, even if you're going to let her be in charge, she doesn't want you to spell out in excruciating detail everything you want her to do to you.  I'd say those are two of the biggest blunders male subs can fall victim to.


 * Again sorry for the late reply... I meant to and then it slipped my mind. Fletcher (talk) 03:13, 2 May 2008 (UTC) (P.S. My username has changed to Fletcher, same guy though).