User talk:Starrfoot

Sexuality, Gender, Sex, and Sexual/Gender Expression (not limited to this)
I want this to serve the purpose of creating an open space to generate a dialogue around the recently padded, verbose, dynamic, roller-coaster inducing, lovable,inarticulate, and poetic (probably are many more ways to describe it) subject of sexuality and gender. I want people to feel free to dare, feel comfortable, open, judge-free, when they express how they feel, what they are thinking, their experiences, or their observations on or about sexuality, gender, sex, and sexual/gender expression. I want people to feel free to challenge others and there to be an open discussion about this questioning. I want people to feel free to propose ideas, thoughts, feelings that maybe they have been afraid to before. I want this internet space to be a safe space for all to express their sexualities and also be aware of how others think, feel, or express their sexuality or gender, or views on sexuality and gender. I want this space to be respectful and considerate. I have the desire that people will be able to express their experiences of communities, as individuals, as part of a culture, class, race, religion, etc and how that has affected their view of sexuality or their experiences with gender/sex and sexual and/or sexual expression.

Disclaimer: I am aware that there are many facets that affect gender and sexuality and the way that people express this. I do not mean to direct resentment towards anyone for not feeling as I feel and if they have any questions, want to discuss this, have any concerns, feel free to contact me, but I ask of you to not use this discussion space for bitterness.

I will open with some questions, quotes, and possibly will continue with pictures to generate a beginning and consistent stream of dialogue.

I will put them in list form, but I do not want to use that as something limiting, but as a way to organize. Feel free to discuss or answer as you please.

1. What do you think of this quote?

"Every year I teach dozens of students at the University of Birmingham. Most of the students on the gender and sexuality courses are women. I guess this is because the boys don't think that gender applies to them: that it's a subject for girls." Louise Brown

Starrfoot: I think that being a boy is that of as a general and that when people think of minorities or rather a label, like sexuality, race, class, etc, they think of the "oppressed" group. I think that gender seems more pronounced for women, not to say that men do not have a gender, but that it is more relational, not that being a man is not relational. I think that people, when they say race, gender, sexuality, should have more of a clear view in their mind of all of the groups or individuals included in that wide definition.

3. What do you think and how do you feel about this quote? Can/Do you relate to it?

"There really is something raw about sexuality that's real and good and we must continue to learn to not be ashamed of it. But - we have to honor the reality of practicing safer sex." Kyan Douglas

Starrfoot: I think that sex has been recently seen as a taboo subject in American society and that it is rarely talked about. I was surprised to learn at college that many people did not continue to have the conversations I had in high school, which were laden with sexual innuendos, blunt sex references, and hinting at porn sites or objectification of bodies whether male or female. When sex is talked about in college it seems to be an acceptance, something sacred, something contained in the mentioning of a hook-up or casual sex, or something that is talked about with a stern face. There is no more jest when talking about sex except with the occasional few who like to joke about the ridiculousness of sex positions with me or tell dirty jokes. The loving of sex is sometimes seen as crude, animalistic, and lusty.

Feel free to voice your thoughts opinions and to start new discussions. I am looking forward to hearing from you and hearing what you have to say, want to say, need to say, etc. Love and Peace, Danielle

What do you want to say about sexuality? To catalog experience? To develop a definition? We could discuss ambiguity in sex? There needs to be fodder for this type of discussion. Start us on the path you wish.

I want to know what people think of sexuality, how they express their sexuality (yes, in a sense to catalog experience), to self-define, to change the definitions "set in stone" in sense by books, and to discuss what sex means, if there are two, or if there are more than two sexes. What do you think? What do you think of sex/what is your definition? How do you define the terms listed above? what is your experience with gender/how do you think of gender?