User talk:TORI21342

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 * Hi, saw your note on the Help page... Does your school have a counselor? Sometimes they can help. KillerChihuahua ?!?Advice 02:58, 12 December 2009 (UTC)


 * You should talk to a guidance counselor or a teacher that you trust. If you don't have one of those, then you might want to consider talking to another adult you trust like a coach, your doctor, or a religious leader, or even the parent(s) of one of your friends.  Please talk to someone though, it sounds like you're having a tough time and need someone on your side. Frmatt (talk) 03:03, 12 December 2009 (UTC)

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Hello I dont want to live at home anymore what do i do?? I'm not being abused or anything like that... but im just so sick of my parents treating me like shit... and treating me like i am there worst child.... i am the youngest out of 3 children including me.. and recently my parents have kept yelling at me for my room... because it is alittle messy... and my brothers room is a pig sty... i have been grounded for 2 weeks for it... and he just gets alittle slap on the hand and they say clean it up.. and he doesnt... and another thing is that i have gotten 2 missing assignments in my english class all year... and i have been grounded for 1 week... and my other brother has 15 missing assignments in english class... and he doenst get told anyhting... this is just frusterating me.... i am so sick of my parents... i want to stay with my friends at school... but im not sure if i will be able to do this if my parents actually go with my plan and put me up for adoption... but im not sure if this will happen... is there anything else i can do for myself?? can any1 out there help me?? i would really like it if you could.... i just dont know what to do anymore... please help me... —Preceding unsigned comment added by TORI21342 (talk • contribs) 02:53, 12 December 2009


 * Hi TORI. I don't know your exact situation but here are some thoughts for whatever they're worth.
 * Don't compare the treatment you and your brother are getting. Different people need different methods of upbringing. If your parents were setting the same rules for all of you, then you should start getting worried. Think of it like coaching. A good coach will find what methods of motivation work for each of his apprentices. Granted, the greater society has strict rules that people need to learn how to live in, but thank your good fortune that your family seems to take a more individual approach to your situation.
 * Talk to your parents and be critical of your own behaviour. If your parents are yelling at you, it's likely because other methods of communicating with you have failed.
 * Accept good faith on behalf of your parents. They feed you, provide for your comfort and are doing their best to raise you to be a good person. They may not do the best job possible on all fronts, all the time but I bet they are doing their best (otherwise they would have put you up for adoption already) and would gladly do better given the opportunity. Enable such opportunities.
 * Accept either your parents guidance or responsibility for yourself. If you don't like the demands made of you, don't make any of others either. Get a part time job, provide for yourself and contribute to the household.
 * Speak to someone in person. School counselors are a good resource. They're not personally involved, have ample experience and their job is to help.
 * ... oh, and don't use project talk pages for this sort of stuff.  Take care and all the best. --Swift (talk) 03:41, 12 December 2009 (UTC)