User talk:Trestoncooklincoln


 * Hi! Can you give me any advice for improving this article?--Trestoncooklincoln (talk) 20:47, 12 January 2019 (UTC)

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Hi! On my talk page I saw that you posted this:
 * I need help with submitting the Evaluating a Wikipedia Article and Choose Your Topic/Find Your Sources assignments. I found an article title "Interpersonal Communication" last week and made a small edit but when I went to review I see that it was not submitted and it has not been graded. Can you please help?

I saw that you made the edit here, adding the statement "When trying to understand the harmony and balance of the behaviour it is important to be aware of the tone rather than focusing solely on what is actually said." It looks like the edit is still live as far as I can see - it does need a source to back up the claim, however, as any new content needs to be sourced. Also be careful of the phrase "it is important", as importance is subjective to the reader. With this, all you need to do is attribute it to the source you pulled the claim from. The sentence is otherwise good so you could rephrase this to be "When trying to understand the harmony and balance of the behaviour, This Person notes that it is important to be aware of the tone rather than focusing solely on what is actually said." If it's something that you pulled from the source used earlier in the paragraph, you can always re-use the source, of course.

This is all stuff that you'll pick up on as you continue to edit so I wouldn't worry overly much - the main thing is that you continue to learn. :) As far as grading goes, this is something that your instructor will be doing, so they're the ones that you need to reach out to, including on information on how to submit work to them. Shalor (Wiki Ed) (talk) 18:18, 28 January 2019 (UTC)

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Hello, I saw that you have uploaded the image File:Cultural-personal-communications.png to Wikimedia Commons under a Creative Commons license, however I cannot see where (per the source provided) the image was ever released into the public domain or under that Creative Commons license. With any images lacking clear copyright information, always assume that the content is copyrighted in a way that would prohibit it from being uploaded to Commons, even if the copyright is missing or the file was uploaded to a public social media site such as Twitter. I would like for you to review the training module on uploading images and media, thanks. Shalor (Wiki Ed) (talk) 20:17, 22 February 2019 (UTC)

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Interpreting Talk through the Uncertainty Reduction Theory

Understanding the distinctions and nuances of a situation provides clarity when looking to build on a developing relationship. Factors like gender, culture, personal interest and the environment play a role in understanding one’s perspective to communicate more effectively. If a negotiation or debate is transpiring, the recognition of these factors can also establish the boundaries of the discussion as well as the relationship itself. The concept of interpreting talk sets the foundation that allows individuals to interact in a safe space with knowledge that minimizes the potential of damaging a relationship. This is essential in platonic, romantic, family and professional relationships because they all are ongoing and integral to one’s overall satisfaction in life.

Principles from two theoretical studies help justify why individuals conduct themselves in a particular fashion while shedding light on how they go about it. One is the Uncertainty Reduction Theory, that argues people look to gain information about others, reducing uncertainty, with hopes of establishing healthy relationship where the benefits outweigh the costs (Parks & Adelman 1983). This theory was created by Charles Berger and Richard Calabrese to understand the communication process between strangers that connected to our expectations since people are naturally inquisitive, social beings (Redmond 2015).

The studies of Uncertainty Reduction Theory evolved from only pertaining to the interaction of strangers and the expectations associated, if any, to the realization that it was evident in most forms of human communication (Berger 1986). It is human nature to want to belong to something bigger than yourself so it’s no coincidence that people subconsciously are looking to bond with others when given the opportunity, especially with your preferred sex. Therefore, after someone’s attention is captured in an initial greeting, people tend to look for subtle cues to see if the other party is willing to continue, often seen as being friendly and welcoming. Duck (2011) states the continuation of these initial interactions as “unfinished business” that will last until the relationship ceases. On the contrary, rejection could lead to frustration that eventually could make your insecurities even worse. The theory states the three strategies people go about seeking information is: (1) Passive - observing them in their natural environment. (2) Interactive – directly communicating with the person. (3) Active - reaching out to others for the information and determining if the next step should be observing them passively or interactively communicating with them (Antheunis, Valkenburg, & Peter 2009). In the social media era we live, a study was done that revealed the passive strategy, is the most commonly used but the interactive strategy reduces the most uncertainty (Antheunis, Valkenburg, & Peter 2009). Information gained from these strategies not only reduces uncertainty but also increase the likelihood of predicting the others’ next course of action. The behavior associated with these strategies is known as “self-monitoring”, where people strategically manipulate how they present themselves due to the information they have received (Gudykunst 1985).

As studies developed there have been other uncertainties related to oneself, their partner, and the relationship that stem from these behaviors. During self-uncertainty an individual’s insecurity makes one question and start trying to seek information about their own past behaviors and predict what they should act going forward. This can be independent or derived from partner-uncertainty, where people try to figure out what problems have occurred that justify the other individual’s behavior or feelings so they can be a better help to them. The last form is a combination of the two known as relationship uncertainty. This occurs when the lack of information about the source of relational issues and causes a disturbance because one can’t thoroughly explain and find a solution for a dilemma in the relationship (Redmond 2015). Communication scholars have studied this theory and its effects on romantic when coupled with other variables. In romantic relationships studies have shown a relation with the Uncertainty Reduction Theory and its ability to predict the longevity of the relationship. Having information about your partner’s behaviors, feelings, and thoughts play a major in the development of a relationship because makes individuals reference and factor previous experiences so they deal with issues more efficiently. One variable studied in romantic relationships was the amount of time the couple spent communicating through an interactive and/or passive strategy (Parks & Adelman 1983). Observing your partner’s behavior with their family is a way one can see them in their most comfortable environment. This can reveal innate traits that aren’t processed or exploited during direct communication. However, direct communication could affirm mutual interests as well as similarities in personalities (Parks & Adelman 1983). Getting information that allows you to promote your similarities is a way to connect more in a developing relationship.

There are assumptions that uncertainty can encourage individuals to avoid situations or discussions that need to be had in order to develop a healthier relationship. Seeking information to reduce uncertainty has resulted in people portraying an image that favors their partners interests. Unfortunately, if this is the only focus it could leave a lot of issues that need to be discussed. Common relationship problems like punctuality, sensitivity, and communicating schedule conflicts could fester and become more severe than what they initially were. Being transparent about what upsets you about your partner is healthy because it gives them clarity on the do’s and don’ts of the relationship. Keeping the peace is the goal in most relationships but couples often clash because their grievances aren’t effectively communicated. These types of patterns are unhealthy and must be broken if a couple is looking to sustain a healthy relationship with good understanding (Taibbi 2017). Therefore, individuals must be honest with themselves about realizing compatibility rather than disregarding your feelings in order to only make your partner happy.