User talk:Truevoice1

Bold text My page is going to be used as a means of helping anyone who has been a victim of child abuse, bullying and domestic violence, HOWEVER my intention is to not simply express my   opinions but to instead use fact, to really put the TRUTH out there with regard to the topics i have chosen. There are still far too many myths out there, victims whose stories are not told, how more often than not the perpetrators use emotional terror to keep their victims imprisoned, the psyche is a very delicate thing and perpetrators of child abuse, bullying and domestic violence know exactly how to work on it. They are also very adept at making their victims look as if they are the ones in the wrong.

The media only knows so much and yes the laws are slowly changing but still there is so much more work to be done, whether it be child abuse, bullying or domestic violence ALL the perpetrators have something in common they are all bullies in one form or another.

For instance, there is a very common train of thought as to why victims do not come forward, i.e. why do they allow things to go on for so long? Why did they not seek out someone they could trust to confide in. The answers are in no way simple, the dynamics are many, first of all there is the fear issue, hey are terrified of their abuser/perpetrator, who always use psychological abuse a way of ensuring that their victim remains silent. Then there is the issue of the disgust that they feel in themselves, the terrible act that has occured, the fear of not being believed even if they do speak out, the repercussions of speaking out, the overwhelming guilt, ( especially with regard to child abuse), but even when the issue is perhaps being bullied at school the dynamics are not all that different. The statistics are that 1 in every 6 children are abused before they reach the age of sixteen, this is apalling, far too many victims are slipping through the net simply because the resources needed are not nearly enough, ( this is NOT the fault of those organisations who are doing everything that they possibly can to reach out to victims), the numbers are unfortunately heartbreaking.

Then we have bullying,( especially in our schools ),children are choosing to take their own lives rather than seek out the help that they so desperately need, the anger i personally feel whenever i read yet another story in the media about a child who has found themselves in such a desperate situation they they feel there is no other way out, not only brings tears to my eyes but a feeling of seething anger Government guidelines are once again slowly changing BUT it does NOT go far enough, anti bullying policies in our schools are in place HOWEVER when someone is found to be bullying another child punishment does NOT fit the terror that they have put their victim through, bullying in all of our schools MUST be outlawed. Why should ANY child be made to feel so helpless that they ACTUALLY CHOOSE to take their own lives? It HAS to STOP, there are now no other options available.

Then there is the scurge that is domestic violence, yet another form of bully, someone who is supposed to love the person they are sharing their life with but who instead use psychological as well as physical abuse to terrify their victim/s. While we now know that more positive steps are being taken to ensure that even psychological abuse will receive a prison sentence, there is still the issue of how the courts and family liason officers actually deal with domestic violence. The legal system remains very inept when it comes to domestic violence, .....especially with regard to family liason officers whose training can only be deemed as laughable, they have NO REAL knowledge of what goes on behind closed doors with regard to domestic violence. Children are victims too, yet court family liason officers treat children appallingly, ( i know because i have witnessed how these people work), i myself am a survivor of all three issues that i have chosen to write about so i DO KNOW precisely what i am talking about.

I am hoping that by creating this page i will be able to give victims a REAL voice.