User talk:Wasif sanjid

Dowry- The Ultimate Curse!!!

Dowry, a gift to the bridegroom. This is what the English dictionary states for the word "Dowry". And today, the society. you and I are simply not oblivion of the fact, that eventually, what this gift named Dowry costs! Even a Life! 1) Yasmin, 19, was beaten up and tortured seriously by her husband for dowry, who after the incident,  lied in a critical condition at (Chittagong Medical College Hospital) CMCH. 2) Shaheen, another victim of such a menace doesn't even know her age, but is being perpetually beaten up by her husband for dowry. Complaining seems fruitless to her, as no matter how much inhuman he acts, eventually Shaheen, says, "I had to live with him, so whats the meaning of a protest". 3) Another girl was just burnt alive by her in laws for failure in paying off the so called DOWRY. If cases like these are presented, thousands could be showcased, but the harsh truth is, in such a modern society of ours, abolishing it still rises as a question to us! Most of the cases we see nowadays linked to Dowry, belongs to the lower middle class of the society, where illiteracy stands as a major cause. But I affirm, from our very own driver to the renowned industrialist,  each and everyone is corrupted. Individuals of lower middle class families are opt to pay off dowry for poverty, and simply where the girl lacks outer beauty....On the contrary, let me show a different form of it, which belongs to the higher society families of our era. There is no denying the fact, that most of the high society brides, wrap themselves with an immense number of gold and diamonds, gifted by their parents. They name this expensive presents as their love. Now, don't the poverty facing fathers love their daughters???? In such a presentation of golds and accessories we could see an intense  competition, as in, who presents their daughter the most. The more you provide, the more lovable father you are. Is this the parents love?! This simply, classifies, a different form of dowry. Such practices have risen up things like Dowry. A father is providing his most precious possession, her daughter...isn't that enough?? A marriage is bonded by the formation and understanding of the partners, not by the trading of innocent brides. Education has evolved in our society, but the true cultural education, still lacks behind. Bangladesh, a Muslim country. When it comes to women in the rural areas of our society, people made us remember, the importance of husbands in their lives and the respect that should be provided, no matter how wrong they does. Well, frankly, lets directly come to Islam then, and thus to the Qur'an, where it is strictly prohibited. It states, receiving Dowry from the bride's family is ha-ram, forbidden by the Islamic law, whereas, it is the husband's family, that should provide mohorana, money for the bride's family, for presenting their most beloved possession, their daughter. In cases of pushing off women, you introduce religion, whereas, when the application of this religion comes, no one even bothers! Nevertheless, I wont mention the facts that has being previously nurtured in printing medias and symposiums, rather urge the general people, to come forward, to stop this menace, in which many innocent life blows away. To the affluent society, try to stop providing golds and accessories, because your gift's weight may turn to others difficulty. To parents and guardians, don't merge your daughters with families and bridegrooms, who begins the wonderful relation of marriage with trade. To the girls, open all the windows and barriers, be educated to prove that as a human being, you worth happiness. And to the government, there are still countless districts in Bangladesh, where child marriage and dowry are injecting pains in women and girls. Its high time to ensure their proper education and supervision, so that no other girl tolerates the pain of burning, the shame of being tortured.... Farhana Yasmin, a girl like any other girl, in our Bengali society, was sitting as a  bride, at her most precious day, her wedding day..However, when it was time  for her to be happy, she heard  her will-be in-laws bellowing for dowry ! She at that very moment, stood up and affirmed, "I will not sit for this wedding, I cannot share a roof with such a man, with the rest of my life, who is demanding a cheap thing like Dowry....and who demands such, himself proves his inner person, I would like to live single, rather spending the rest of my life with such an in-human man" This is what our attitude should be...but which we generally fail to achieve, due to social restrictions and lack of courage and self confidence ! Such a thing like dowry will only reduce if girls learn to go beyond borders, when needed ! Only then, we would discover and achieve true independence, where women and girls would not be considered as commodities ! Last but not the least, I would say, IF YOU WANT A CHANGE, BE THE CHANGE !