Wikipedia:Reference desk/Archives/Miscellaneous/2013 August 29

= August 29 =

African Children
How can I get help to bring a child to the USA? — Preceding unsigned comment added by Moondove1 (talk • contribs) 16:36, 29 August 2013 (UTC)
 * You may find This webpage from the United States Department of Health and Human Services, an agency of the federal government, useful. -- Jayron  32  18:16, 29 August 2013 (UTC)
 * Don't forget Charity begins at home.--Aspro (talk) 22:25, 29 August 2013 (UTC)
 * A guide to understanding international adoption in the global village. I will add, I was adopted as a child from a developing country to a developed one, and I still feel it would have been better for me to have stayed in my original country. To be thrust into a new culture and language is terrifying, and it's traumatic to be expected to be grateful for it. Of course some adoptions work out, but I would make a personal plea that you investigate carefully to make sure there is no other way to help this child within their own country. 184.147.119.141 (talk) 22:32, 29 August 2013 (UTC)


 * I would second that. For any one familiar with Eric Berne, adoptive parents can often try to imprint an “I'm OK, Your OK, They ?”. Whilst some  adopted children  (say like Soon-Yi Previn) crossed that chasm, because she was lucky enough to have adoptive parents that gave her her a chance to discover  her  own identity, the newspapers don't report on all those that grow up feeling isolated and alone.--Aspro (talk) 23:05, 29 August 2013 (UTC)


 * I prefer my version: "My OK, Your OK. Their ?" :) --   Jack of Oz   [pleasantries]  04:30, 30 August 2013 (UTC)
 * Don't know what Eric Berne would comment but personally I approve of your substitution of My for "I'm" as it helps  double underlines the issue. i.e.,  I'm OK – My Ok are both  an unexamined subjective view point of and individual, or as we like to say on WP... simply POV. 13:39, 1 September 2013 (UTC)


 * Depending on what kind of help you're looking for - gathering information on the U.S. State Department website linked by User:Jayron32, above, is a good start. ALSO find out as much as you can in advance about emotional support and parenting advice through groups, blogs, community services - on anything with which you're not already experienced and familiar. Check as many sources as possible. Be honest and realistic with yourself about your motives and resources. Realize that there are no guarantees even raising children in their birth family (this goes for children as well as parents) and it's a long process with huge responsibility - not only but also the financial. -- Deborahjay (talk) 07:27, 30 August 2013 (UTC)